Let’s be real for a second: finding a double dildo that actually works for two bodies simultaneously is surprisingly difficult. We have all been there—you buy a generic "strapless" toy, get excited to use it, and then spend the entire night awkwardly trying to keep it from slipping out or pinching. It’s a common frustration in the lesbian community.
A great 2 sided dildo shouldn't require a degree in engineering to keep in place. It should be an extension of your intimacy, allowing you to focus on the connection rather than the logistics. Whether you are looking for deep penetration, clitoral stimulation, or just a closer embrace, the technology has finally caught up to our needs.
In this guide, we are breaking down exactly how to choose the right toy, the specific mechanics of "the fit," and why ergonomic designs like the Lesley: Triple-Motor Detachable Double Dildo for Lesbian Couples are changing the game for queer intimacy. We will skip the fluff and get straight to what matters: your pleasure and safety.
Quick Summary: The Bottom Line
What is a 2 sided dildo? A 2 sided dildo (often called a double dildo or strapless strap-on) is a sex toy designed with two insertable ends meant to be worn internally by one partner while penetrating the other, allowing for simultaneous stimulation without a harness.
Top Pick: Our testing points to the BOMBEX Lesley as the superior choice. Unlike rigid standard models, it features a U-shaped ergonomic design that stays put, triple motors for shared vibes, and a detachable structure that offers 2-in-1 versatility.
What to Look For: Buying Criteria
Before you click "add to cart," you need to understand the anatomy of a double dildo. Most cheap options fail because they ignore human anatomy. Here is the breakdown of what actually matters when shopping for a 2 sided dildo.
1. Material Safety
What is the best material? 100% medical-grade silicone is the only acceptable material for internal sex toys.
You will see cheaper toys made of TPR, TPE, or Jelly. Avoid these. They are porous, meaning they have microscopic holes that trap bacteria, which can lead to yeast infections or Bacterial Vaginosis (BV). Silicone is non-porous, can be sterilized, and warms to body temperature. We never recommend putting anything inside your body that isn't body-safe silicone, a standard emphasized in guides on how to use sex toys safely.
2. The "Stay-Put" Factor (Ergonomics)
How do you keep it in? You need a toy with a "bulb" or a specialized U-shape anchor.
Standard double-ended dildos are often just a straight stick. These are physically impossible for most couples to keep in place because as soon as you thrust, the toy slides out. Look for a design where the wearing end has a bulbous shape or a curved U-shape that hooks behind the pubic bone (similar to a menstrual cup). This internal anchor is vital for hands-free play.
3. Vibration Power
Do you need motors? Yes, because the internal fullness of a double dildo can sometimes reduce sensation for the wearer.
A non-vibrating double dildo can feel filling, but it might lack the clitoral stimulation needed to orgasm. Since vibrators are designed to stimulate the body by vibration, adding this element helps bridge the gap between fullness and friction. A 2 sided dildo with integrated motors—specifically rumbly, deep-tone motors rather than buzzy ones—ensures that both partners are getting stimulated. The best options offer independent controls so the wearer isn't overwhelmed while the receiver gets the intensity they need.
The Solution: Why We Recommend the Lesley
After testing various shapes and sizes, we found that the Lesley: Triple-Motor Detachable Double Dildo for Lesbian Couples solves the specific pain points mentioned above. It isn't just a piece of silicone; it's a modular system designed for how lesbian couples actually have sex.
Below is a direct comparison of why the Lesley outperforms standard market options.
| Feature | Standard Double Dildo | BOMBEX Lesley |
|---|---|---|
| Stability | Slips out easily; requires constant hand adjustment. | U-Shape design anchors naturally for true hands-free wear. |
| Stimulation | Usually non-vibrating or weak single motor. | Triple-motor design stimulating both partners simultaneously. |
| Versatility | One fixed shape. | Detachable 2-in-1 structure (use together or solo). |
| Material | Often stiff PVC or Jelly. | Premium Body-Safe Silicone (Velvet touch). |
Mastering the 2 Sided Dildo: Positions & Technique
Owning the toy is step one. Knowing how to move with it is step two. Using a 2 sided dildo like the Lesley requires a slight learning curve because you don't have the rigid leverage of a strap-on harness. Instead, you are using your own pelvic muscles (Kegels) and body positioning to maintain the connection.
Here are three positions we recommend to maximize stability and pleasure with the Lesley.
1. The Face-to-Face Embrace (Modified Scissoring)
This is the quintessential position for double dildos because it allows for deep intimacy, kissing, and equal friction.
- Setup: The receiving partner lies on their back with knees slightly bent. The wearing partner inserts the smaller/shorter end of the Lesley into themselves.
- The Action: The wearing partner straddles one of the receiving partner’s legs, aligning their hips. Lower yourself slowly so the external end enters your partner.
- Why it works: Gravity helps keep the toy in place for the wearer. The U-shape of the Lesley sits comfortably against the wearer's pubic bone, and the grinding motion stimulates the clitoris for both parties against the vibrating base.
- Pro Tip: Hold each other's hips to control the depth. If you slip, don't stress—just laugh, readjust, and slide back in.
2. The Spoon (Lazy Sunday)
If you want a slower, more romantic session, spooning is ideal. It requires less athletic thrusting and focuses more on internal fullness.
- Setup: Both partners lie on their sides, facing the same direction. The receiving partner is the "little spoon" (in front), and the wearing partner is the "big spoon" (behind).
- The Action: The wearer inserts the anchor end. Lift the top leg of the receiver slightly (or rest it on a pillow) to open up access. The wearer then slides the external shaft in from behind.
- Why it works: This position offers shallow to mid-depth penetration, which is great if the receiver has a sensitive cervix. The triple motors of the Lesley: Triple-Motor Detachable Double Dildo for Lesbian Couples shine here, as the vibration travels between both bodies where you are pressed together.
3. The Rider (Cowgirl Variation)
This gives the receiving partner full control over depth and speed, which is helpful if the wearer is still getting used to holding the toy.
- Setup: The wearing partner lies on their back. Insert the anchor end. It helps to place a firm pillow under the wearer's hips to tilt the pelvis upward—this changes the angle of the external shaft to point more vertically.
- The Action: The receiving partner straddles the wearer, lowering themselves onto the exposed shaft.
- Why it works: The wearer can focus entirely on their Kegels to keep the toy internal, while the receiver controls the rhythm. This is often the most stable position for beginners using a strapless toy for the first time.
Critical Safety, Hygiene, and Care
We cannot stress this enough: your sexual health is directly tied to how you care for your toys. Because a 2 sided dildo is shared between two bodies simultaneously, hygiene is paramount to prevent cross-contamination or infections. The NHS provides guidance on sex toys and the importance of keeping them clean to avoid health issues.
The Science of Lube
Never use silicone-based lubricant with the Bombex Lesley or any high-quality silicone toy. Silicone lube binds to the surface of silicone toys, causing a chemical reaction that degrades the material. It creates a gummy, sticky texture that cannot be fixed, effectively ruining the toy.
The Recommendation: Use a high-quality water-based lubricant. Look for formulas that are iso-osmolar (balanced to your body's natural cells) and free from glycerin if you are prone to yeast infections. Generous lubrication is essential for double dildos because you are managing friction at two entry points simultaneously.
Cleaning Routine
You must clean the toy before and after every single use. Here is the medical-standard cleaning routine:
- Wash: Use warm water and fragrance-free antibacterial soap or a dedicated sex toy cleaner. Scrub all crevices, especially around the motor buttons and the U-bend.
- Rinse: Ensure all soap residue is gone. Soap left on the toy can irritate the delicate mucous membranes of the vagina.
- Dry: Pat dry with a lint-free cloth or let it air dry completely.
- Storage: Store your Lesley in a fabric pouch or a clean drawer, away from other toys. Silicone toys touching TPE or jelly toys can cause a chemical "melt" over time.
For a deeper clean, because the Lesley is fully waterproof and made of medical-grade silicone, you can briefly boil the silicone parts (ensure the charging port is sealed/safe per manual instructions) to sterilize it, though warm soapy water is usually sufficient for regular home use.
Frequently Asked Questions
Does using a 2 sided dildo hurt?
It should not hurt. However, it can feel intense due to the "fullness" sensation. If you are new to double penetration toys, start with plenty of foreplay and water-based lubricant. If you experience pain, stop, apply more lube, or try a different angle. The Lesley is made of soft silicone to minimize discomfort.
How do I keep the double dildo from falling out?
This is the #1 challenge. The solution is twofold: Buy a toy with an ergonomic shape (like the Lesley’s bulbous internal anchor) and use your pelvic floor muscles (Kegels) to grip the internal end. Positions like "The Rider" or "Scissoring" where legs are intertwined also help keep the toy compressed between you.
Can I use the BOMBEX Lesley for solo play?
Yes! That is one of its unique selling points. The Lesley features a detachable design. You can separate the parts to use the vibrating element as a solo vibrator or use the insertable end for single penetration. It is a versatile investment.
Is it safe to share the toy between partners?
Yes, provided you are fluid-bonded (have tested negative for STIs and agreed to share fluids). If you are not fluid-bonded, you must use condoms on both ends of the dildo. However, putting condoms on a double-ended toy can be slippery, so fluid-bonded couples usually have the easiest time with these toys.
How loud is the triple motor?
The Lesley is designed to be discreet. While it packs a punch with power, the motors are engineered for a low-frequency rumble rather than a high-pitched whine, meaning it’s quiet enough that it won't be heard outside the bedroom door.
Conclusion: Ready to Connect?
The world of 2 sided dildos has come a long way from the stiff, uncomfortable models of the past. You deserve a toy that fits your body, respects your anatomy, and actually stays in place when things get heated.
By choosing an ergonomic, body-safe option like the Lesley, you aren't just buying a toy; you are investing in a smoother, more connected sexual experience with your partner. It’s time to ditch the slip-ups and focus on the pleasure.
Check out the Lesley: Triple-Motor Detachable Double Dildo for Lesbian Couples and upgrade your intimacy today.
