For decades, the search for the best strapon set has involved a frustrating compromise: dealing with complicated harnesses, confusing buckles, and "universal" sizes that fit no one. You want intimacy, connection, and pleasure—not a 20-minute setup routine that kills the mood before you even touch the sheets.
If you have been hunting for a strap-on that actually stays in place and provides pleasure for both partners simultaneously, it is time to look beyond the harness. The evolution of the strapon set is here, and it is strapless. By utilizing ergonomic design and internal muscle control, modern double dildos offer a hands-free experience that feels more natural and less mechanical than traditional options.
Quick Summary: The Best Strapon Alternative
What is the best option for couples? We recommend ditching the harness for a strapless double dildo. Unlike traditional sets that separate the wearer from the sensation, strapless options use a bulbous insert to stay in place, stimulating the wearer while penetrating the partner.
Top Pick: The Lesley: Triple-Motor Detachable Double Dildo for Lesbian Couples. It solves the "slipping out" problem with a U-shape ergonomic design and adds triple stimulation for both partners.
What Makes a Great Strapon Set?
A great strapon set is defined by stability, material safety, and mutual pleasure. Before you buy, you need to understand the three critical factors that separate a medical-grade device from a novelty toy.
- Material Stability (The "Squish" Factor): You want 100% medical-grade silicone. It needs to be firm enough to hold its shape during thrusting but soft enough to feel like skin. Cheaper "jelly" materials are porous and can harbor bacteria.
- Ergonomics (The Fit): A good set shouldn't require tight straps to stay on. It should contour to the wearer's pubic bone. In strapless models, the internal bulb must be sized correctly to grip the vaginal muscles without causing cramping.
- Motor Function: Standard strap-ons are often dead silicone. The best modern sets integrate vibration into both ends, ensuring the wearer isn't just a "service top" but an active participant receiving G-spot stimulation.
Why the Lesley is Our Top Pick
We tested various options to find a solution that balances stability with sensation. The Lesley Double Dildo stands out because it acts as a complete "set" in one unit—no harness required.
Comparison: Traditional Harness vs. Lesley Strapless
| Feature | Traditional Strapon Set | BOMBEX Lesley |
|---|---|---|
| Setup Time | High (Buckles, adjusting straps) | Instant (Insert and play) |
| Wearer Sensation | Low (Base rubs against skin) | High (Internal G-spot vibration) |
| Intimacy | Barrier created by harness fabric | Skin-to-skin contact |
| Versatility | Couple play only | 2-in-1 (Detachable for solo use) |
The Lesley solves the biggest complaint about strapless toys: the "slip." Its U-shape design hooks naturally over the pelvic bone, while the triple motors ensure that while you are giving pleasure, you are receiving deep, rumbly vibrations internally. Plus, the detachable design means you essentially get two toys for the price of one.
4 Positions to Master Your Strapless Play
Using a strapless device like the Lesley requires a slightly different technique than a harnessed strapon set. Because you are using your pelvic floor muscles (Kegels) to help hold the toy, you have more control over the motion, but you also need positions that maximize stability. Here are four positions we recommend for the best experience.
1. The Lotus Lock (Face-to-Face)
This is the ultimate position for intimacy and stability. The receiving partner sits on the bed with their legs crossed or open loosely. The wearing partner (you) straddles them, lowering yourself onto their lap.
- Why it works: Gravity helps keep the Lesley in place. Your weight pushes the toy down, securing the internal bulb against your own G-spot while the external shaft penetrates your partner.
- The technique: Wrap your legs around your partner’s waist. This allows for grinding motions rather than in-and-out thrusting, which stimulates the clitoris for both of you simultaneously.
2. The Supported Doggy
Doggy style can be tricky with strapless toys if you get too wild, but the "Supported" variation fixes this. Have the receiving partner kneel on the bed, but place a firm pillow under their stomach or hips to elevate them slightly.
- Why it works: The angle changes so that the wearer can kneel behind and thrust slightly upward. This upward angle hooks the internal part of the Lesley more firmly behind the wearer's pubic bone.
- The technique: The wearer should hold the receiving partner's hips firmly. Instead of pulling all the way out with each thrust, keep the strokes shallow and rhythmic. This maintains connection and prevents the toy from slipping.
3. The Lazy Spoon
Perfect for slow, morning sex or when you want deep connection with minimal cardio. Both partners lie on their sides, facing the same direction (spooning). The wearer is the "big spoon."
- Why it works: The mattress provides support for the toy, preventing it from rotating. It allows for a very close, full-body cuddle.
- The technique: The receiving partner (little spoon) may need to lift their top leg slightly (placing it on a pillow helps). The wearer slides the Lesley in from behind. This position is less about thrusting and more about rocking your hips together in unison.
4. The Solo Rider
One of the unique features of the Lesley is its detachability. Sometimes, the "best strapon set" is the one you use alone. Detach the longer end if you wish, or keep it intact for double fullness.
- Why it works: You can use the U-shape to stimulate yourself internally and externally at the same time.
- The technique: Lie on your back and insert the smaller bulb. The larger shaft can be used to stroke your clitoris, or if you are flexible, you can use the vibration against your nipples or thighs. The triple motors allow you to explore different vibration patterns on different erogenous zones.
Critical Safety & Hygiene: Silicone and Lube Science
Safety is not optional. When inserting a device into two bodies, the material quality and hygiene practices are paramount. Using the wrong lube or cleaning method can ruin your toy or, worse, cause infections.
The Golden Rule: Silicone vs. Water-Based Lube
The Lesley is made from high-quality, body-safe silicone. This means you must use water-based lubricant.
Why? Science tells us that "like dissolves like." Silicone-based lubricants will chemically bond with the silicone of the toy, causing the surface to melt, bubble, and become porous. Once a toy becomes porous, it traps bacteria that cannot be washed away, leading to potential bacterial vaginosis (BV) or yeast infections. According to sexual health resources like the Sexual Medicine Society of North America, using a water-based lube is the safest way to preserve the integrity of silicone toys and protect your body.
Cleaning Routine
Since the Lesley contains three motors and a charging port, you cannot boil it (boiling is for non-motorized silicone only). Follow this routine after every use:
- Immediate Rinse: Rinse the toy with warm water immediately after play to remove fluids.
- Soap Application: Use a mild, fragrance-free antibacterial soap or a dedicated sex toy cleaner. Avoid harsh dish soaps that can leave residue irritating to the vagina.
- Scrub: Gently use your fingers to clean the crevices where the two heads meet the connector.
- Dry: Pat dry with a lint-free towel. Do not store it while damp.
- Storage: Store your silicone toy in a fabric pouch or its original box. Do not let it touch other silicone toys (like "jelly" dildos) in your drawer, as different chemical compositions can react and melt each other.
Frequently Asked Questions
Does a strapless dildo stay in as well as a harness?
It depends on your anatomy and muscle control. A harness provides mechanical security, whereas a strapless toy like the Lesley relies on the wearer's pelvic floor muscles (Kegels) to grip the internal bulb. While it may not support extremely vigorous, acrobatic thrusting as well as a harness, it offers superior intimacy and wearer sensation. Many couples find the trade-off worth it for the "no-straps" experience.
Will using a double dildo hurt?
It should not hurt. If you experience pain, stop immediately. Pain usually comes from lack of lubrication or the toy being too large. We recommend using generous amounts of water-based lubricant on both ends of the Lesley. Start slowly, allowing both partners to relax their muscles before full insertion.
Can I use the Lesley if I am a beginner?
Yes. The Lesley is an excellent choice for beginners because it removes the complexity of adjusting buckles and straps. The U-shape is intuitive. However, beginners should practice wearing it solo first to get used to the sensation of "holding" the toy with their pelvic muscles before introducing it to a partner.
Is the Lesley waterproof?
The Lesley is designed with body-safe silicone that is easy to clean. While it is splash-proof and safe for washing, we recommend avoiding full submersion (like holding it underwater in a bath) for extended periods to protect the charging port and motor life.
Does the wearer actually feel pleasure?
Absolutely. This is the main advantage of the Lesley over a traditional strapon set. The internal bulb is equipped with its own motor, providing direct vibration to the wearer's G-spot or vaginal entrance. Instead of feeling like you are just using a tool, you are sharing the experience.
Conclusion
Finding the best strapon set isn't about finding the biggest buckle or the most complex harness—it's about finding the tool that removes barriers between you and your partner. The move toward ergonomic, strapless designs represents a shift toward more intimate, mutually pleasurable sex.
If you are ready to trade the hassle of straps for the connection of skin-to-skin play, the Lesley: Triple-Motor Detachable Double Dildo for Lesbian Couples is the upgrade your bedroom needs. It is time to stop strapping in and start connecting.
