Let's be real for a second: finding a sex toy that actually works for two women simultaneously is surprisingly difficult. We've all been there—trying to maneuver a strapless dildo that just won't stay put, or awkwardly adjusting a harness that kills the mood. It’s frustrating when the gear gets in the way of the connection.
Whether you are looking to spice up a long-term relationship or exploring strap-free play for the first time, you need gear that is ergonomically designed for female anatomy. The best lesbian toys aren't just about vibration; they are about stability, fit, and mutual pleasure.
Quick Answer: What is the Best Lesbian Toy?
For couples seeking a hands-free, strap-free experience that actually stays in place, we recommend ergonomic double dildos with a "U-shape" or bulbous internal anchor. Our top pick is the Lesley: Triple-Motor Detachable Double Dildo for Lesbian Couples.
Why? Unlike standard toys that slip out, the Lesley uses a clever bulb design for stability and features a unique 2-in-1 detachable motor system, allowing it to transition from couple play to solo fun instantly.
Buying Guide: Criteria for Couple's Toys
Before you buy, it is critical to understand what separates a "novelty" item from a serious bedroom investment. Here are the three non-negotiable features you should look for.
1. Material Safety (Medical-Grade Silicone)
What is medical-grade silicone? Medical-grade silicone is a non-porous, body-safe material that does not trap bacteria or leach chemicals. You should strictly avoid "jelly" or "rubber" toys. These cheaper materials are porous, meaning they have microscopic holes that hold onto bacteria even after washing, which can lead to infections like BV (Bacterial Vaginosis). Always verify the manufacturer states "100% silicone" or "medical-grade."
2. Motor Power and Placement
A common complaint with double dildos is that the vibration is strong at the base but weak at the tips. The best toys use independent motors or "triple-motor" designs to ensure that both the internal wearer and the external partner feel deep, rumbly stimulation—not just a faint buzz.
3. Ergonomics and "The Stay Factor"
How do strapless dildos stay in? They rely on the pelvic floor muscles gripping a bulb or anchor inside the wearer. If this anchor is too small or straight, the toy will slip out during vigorous movement. Look for a pronounced "U" shape or a bulbous internal end that hooks behind the pelvic bone for maximum stability.
Product Spotlight: Why We Recommend The Lesley
After testing various options, we found that the Lesley: Triple-Motor Detachable Double Dildo for Lesbian Couples solves the most common pain point: versatility. Most double dildos are one solid piece of silicone, which can be limiting. The Lesley features a detachable vibrator, effectively giving you two toys in one.
| Feature | Standard Strapless Dildo | Bombex Lesley |
|---|---|---|
| Motor Count | Usually 1 (at the base) | 3 Powerful Motors (Base + Shafts) |
| Structure | Solid, fixed shape | Detachable 2-in-1 Design |
| Wearability | Often slips out | Ergonomic U-Shape for Grip |
| Versatility | Couple play only | Couple play + Solo vibrator |
Detailed Guide: 4 Positions to Try with Your Double Dildo
Buying the toy is just the first step. To get the most out of your playtime, you need to know how to move with it. Strapless toys require a bit of technique to maintain the seal and angle. Here are four positions specifically suited for the Lesley that maximize intimacy and stability.
1. The Modified Missionary (Face-to-Face)
Best for: Emotional connection and intense clitoral stimulation.
This is the classic position but with a twist. The wearing partner lies on their back. If you are wearing the Lesley, you will insert the shorter, bulbous end into yourself. Your partner then climbs on top, straddling your thigh or aligning their hips directly with yours.
- The Trick: The wearing partner should place a firm pillow under their hips. This tilts the pelvis upward, angling the external shaft of the dildo better for the receiving partner.
- Why it works: The triple motors in the Lesley will press against the wearer’s G-spot while simultaneously stimulating the receiver. Because you are face-to-face, you can kiss and maintain eye contact, making this a deeply romantic option.
2. The Lazy Spoon (Side-Lying)
Best for: Long sessions and deep relaxation.
Sometimes you want high pleasure with low energy. Lie on your sides, facing the same direction (spooning). The wearer is the "big spoon" (behind), and the receiver is the "little spoon" (front). The wearer slides the toy in, and because the Lesley is hands-free, they can wrap their arms around their partner, caressing breasts or using hands for manual stimulation.
- The Trick: Both partners should bend their knees slightly. This "fetal" tuck tightens the vaginal canal slightly, helping to grip the toy, while exposing the receiver's clitoris for manual play.
- Why it works: This is the most stable position for strapless toys. Gravity isn't pulling the toy down, so it stays seated firmly against the wearer's pelvic floor.
3. The Lotus (Scissoring Variant)
Best for: Grinding and friction.
Sit facing each other. The wearing partner crosses their legs (Lotus style) or extends them slightly. The receiving partner sits on the wearer’s lap, wrapping their legs around the wearer's waist. This creates a tight, interlocking fit.
- The Trick: Instead of thrusting in and out (which can dislodge the toy), focus on grinding your hips in circular motions. The U-shape of the Lesley is designed to flex with this grinding motion.
- Why it works: The grinding pressure pushes the vibrator firmly against both clitorises at once. It’s less about depth and more about constant, rumbly contact.
4. The Doggy (Rear Entry)
Best for: Depth and power dynamics.
The receiving partner gets on hands and knees. The wearing partner kneels behind them. Because strapless toys can sometimes pivot, the wearer may need to place one hand on the base of the toy to stabilize it during initial insertion.
- The Trick: The wearer should lean forward, pressing their pubic bone against the receiver’s buttocks. This "bone-on-bone" contact helps transfer the vibration through the bodies and keeps the internal anchor secure.
- Why it works: This allows for deeper penetration for the receiver. The detachable nature of the Lesley is great here—if the wearer gets tired, they can detach the vibrating element and use it handheld on the partner from behind.
Critical Safety & Hygiene: What You Need to Know
We cannot stress this enough: safety is sexy. Using the wrong materials or cleaning methods can turn a fun night into a trip to the doctor. Here is the science-backed advice on keeping your play safe.
Silicone vs. Jelly: The Material Matters
As mentioned in our buying guide, you should always opt for non-porous materials. According to health resources like Healthline, porous toys (jelly, TPR, rubber) have microscopic holes. When bodily fluids enter these holes, they can breed bacteria and yeast that are impossible to wash out completely. High-quality toys like the Lesley are made from 100% medical-grade silicone, which is non-porous and can be fully sterilized.
The Science of Lube: Silicone vs. Water-Based
Here is a chemistry rule you must memorize: Like dissolves like.
If you are using a silicone toy, you must use water-based lubricant. If you use silicone lube on a silicone toy, the two materials will react chemically. The lube will begin to dissolve the surface of your toy, making it tacky, pitted, and eventually porous (and therefore unsafe). Water-based lubes are safe for all materials and are easy to clean up. We recommend high-quality options without glycerin if you are prone to yeast infections.
Cleaning Routine
You should clean your toys before and after every single use. Here is the proper protocol for silicone toys:
- Soap and Water: Wash the toy with warm water and mild, fragrance-free antibacterial soap. Scrub all crevices gently.
- Boiling (Optional but Recommended): For a deep clean, since silicone is heat-resistant, you can boil the non-motorized parts of the toy in water for 5-10 minutes. Note: Since the Lesley has a detachable motor, remove the vibrating core first! Never boil the battery/motor component.
- Drying: Pat dry with a lint-free towel. Do not use toilet paper, which can leave paper bits on the sticky silicone surface.
- Storage: Store your silicone toys in a fabric pouch or a clean, dry box. Do not let silicone toys touch other toys made of different materials, as they can sometimes react to each other.
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ)
How do I stop a strapless strap-on from falling out?
This is the #1 struggle with strapless toys. The key is kegel muscles and fit. You need to "grip" the internal bulb with your pelvic floor muscles. Additionally, wearing tight underwear or a harness specifically designed for strapless toys can provide extra security. However, choosing an ergonomically designed toy like the Lesley, which features a wider internal bulb, does most of the work for you by hooking behind the pelvic bone naturally.
Can I use silicone lube with the Lesley double dildo?
No. The Lesley is made of high-quality medical-grade silicone. Silicone lubricant will degrade the material over time, creating a rough surface that can trap bacteria. Always stick to high-quality water-based lubricants for silicone toys.
Is the toy quiet enough for shared housing?
Yes. While the Lesley features three powerful motors, they are engineered to be whisper-quiet. Unless you are using the highest setting in total silence, it is unlikely to be heard outside the bedroom. The vibrations are deep and rumbly rather than buzzy and loud.
How do I clean the motor part if it's detachable?
The detachable motor unit should not be submerged in water or boiled. To clean the motor, simply wipe it down with a damp cloth soaked in soapy water or use a dedicated sex toy cleaner spray. Dry it immediately. The silicone body (without the motor) can be fully washed or boiled.
Does it work for plus-size bodies?
Yes. The U-shape design is generally accommodating for various body types. However, body geometry varies for everyone. For plus-size couples, positions like "The Lazy Spoon" (side-lying) or "Doggy" often work best as they allow for easier access and deeper connection without the physical barriers sometimes present in face-to-face positions.
Is it waterproof?
The silicone body is 100% waterproof. The motor unit is generally water-resistant (splash-proof) but check the specific manual included with your Lesley. It is safe for shower play, but avoid submerging the motor unit in a bathtub for extended periods.
Final Thoughts
Bedroom fun is all about experimentation and finding what feels right for you and your partner. Don't be afraid to laugh if a toy slips out or if a position needs adjusting—that is all part of the intimacy. But having the right tools makes the experience infinitely better.
If you are ready to upgrade from awkward straps to seamless, rumbly pleasure, we highly suggest checking out the Lesley: Triple-Motor Detachable Double Dildo for Lesbian Couples. It’s a game-changer for stability and shared sensation. Stay safe, have fun, and enjoy the connection!
