Let's be real for a second: finding a good double strap on (often called a strapless strap-on) is notoriously difficult. We have all been there. You buy one that looks promising online, but the moment things get heated, it slips out, rotates awkwardly, or just feels like a dead weight that disconnects you from your partner rather than bringing you closer.
But when you find the right one? It’s a total game-changer. It allows for a level of face-to-face intimacy and simultaneous stimulation that harnesses just can't match. As a sex-positive strategist who has analyzed the mechanics of dozens of toys, I’m here to tell you that technology has finally caught up with our anatomy.
Quick Summary: The "TL;DR"
What is a double strap on? It is a dual-ended sex toy designed to be worn internally by one partner (using vaginal muscles to hold it) while penetrating the other, usually without a harness.
The Main Problem: Most generic models have a straight shaft that slips out easily during movement.
The Solution: You need a toy with a U-shaped ergonomic curve and bulbous internal anchor. Our top pick for 2024 is the BOMBEX Lesley: Triple-Motor Detachable Double Dildo because it solves the "slip-out" issue with a smart anchor design and offers stimulation for both partners, not just the receiver.
Buying Criteria: What Actually Matters?
Before you spend your money, you need to understand the mechanics. A double dildo isn't just a piece of silicone; it's a bridge between two bodies. If the engineering is off, the experience fails.
1. The Material (Non-Negotiable)
What is the best material? The only acceptable material for a double strap on is 100% medical-grade silicone.
I cannot stress this enough. Cheaper materials like Jelly, TPR, or PVC are porous. This means they trap bacteria on a microscopic level, which can lead to bacterial vaginosis (BV) or yeast infections. Since you are swapping fluids and sharing this toy intimately, you need a non-porous surface that can be sterilized. Silicone warms to body temperature and is hypoallergenic.
2. The Shape and "Anchor"
How does it stay in? Stability comes from the internal bulb, not just your Kegel muscles.
Many first-time users blame their own pelvic floor strength when a toy falls out. It's usually not your fault; it's bad design. A straight toy will slide out with gravity. Look for an ergonomic "U" or "C" shape. The internal end (the part the wearer uses) should be slightly bulbous or textured to grip the vaginal walls naturally.
3. Vibration for the Wearer
In the past, the "wearer" often got the short end of the stick—literally. They were just a glorified stand for the toy. Modern designs like the Lesley Triple-Motor Detachable Double Dildo change this dynamic by placing motors on both ends. This ensures that the person wearing the toy receives clitoral or G-spot stimulation while penetrating their partner.
Product Spotlight: Why We Recommend The Lesley
After reviewing the specs and user feedback, the Lesley stands out because it addresses the three biggest complaints couples have: stability, wearer pleasure, and versatility.
Most standard double dildos are one solid piece of rubber. The Lesley is modular. It’s a 2-in-1 system that works as a couple's toy but can separate for solo play. That versatility adds massive value.
| Feature | Generic Double Dildo | BOMBEX Lesley |
|---|---|---|
| Stability | Often slips out; requires intense muscle clenching. | U-Shape design naturally hooks behind the pelvic bone for hands-free wear. |
| Stimulation | Usually non-vibrating or weak vibration at one end. | Triple-Motor system stimulates the wearer's clitoris and the receiver simultaneously. |
| Flexibility | Rigid single piece. | Detachable magnetic design; can be used for solo play or partner play. |
Mastering the Art: Positions & Techniques
Buying the toy is step one. Using it without it falling out or feeling awkward is step two. Because double strap-ons rely on the wearer’s anatomy to stay in place, you can’t just swing from the chandelier. You need positions that maximize contact and stability.
Here are four positions we recommend trying with the Lesley: Triple-Motor Detachable Double Dildo for Lesbian Couples to keep things secure and hot.
1. The Lotus Lock (Face-to-Face)
This is arguably the best position for strapless toys. It maximizes intimacy and uses your partner’s body weight to keep the toy seated.
- The Setup: The "wearer" sits cross-legged or with legs slightly extended on the bed. The receiving partner straddles them, facing forward.
- The Stability Hack: Once penetration happens, the receiving partner should wrap their legs tightly around the wearer's waist. This creates a "lock" that presses the bodies together.
- Why it works: The pressure from the receiver’s thighs pushes the external part of the Lesley against the wearer's clitoris, increasing stimulation and preventing the internal anchor from slipping out. It allows for deep gazing and kissing, which is what this toy is all about.
2. The Lazy Spoon
Perfect for slow Sunday mornings or when you want deep stimulation without an athletic workout.
- The Setup: Both partners lie on their sides, facing the same direction (spooning). The wearer is the "big spoon" behind the receiver.
- The Stability Hack: The wearer should bend their top knee and hook it over the receiver’s hip. This angle allows the U-shaped toy to align with the vaginal canals naturally.
- Why it works: Gravity isn't fighting you as much here. The Lesley's triple motors are particularly effective here because the contact is constant and grinding. It’s less about thrusting in and out and more about grinding and rocking together.
3. The Modified Missionary
Classic missionary can be tricky with a strapless toy because if the wearer pulls back too far, the connection breaks. Here is the fix.
- The Setup: Receiver lies on their back. The wearer enters from above.
- The Stability Hack: Do not try to do long, deep thrusts. Instead, the wearer should focus on a circular grinding motion. The receiver can place a pillow under their hips to tilt the pelvis up, meeting the wearer halfway.
- Why it works: The "grind" motion keeps the internal bulb seated in the wearer. Since the Lesley vibrates, you don't need friction thrusting to get off—the motors do the heavy lifting while you focus on the connection.
4. The Reverse Cowgirl (With Support)
This is for when the receiver wants to take total control of the depth and pace.
- The Setup: The wearer lies on their back. The receiver straddles them, facing the wearer’s feet.
- The Stability Hack: The wearer can use their hands to hold the base of the toy against their own body. This is technically "hands-on," but it ensures the toy doesn't flip upward.
- Why it works: It gives the receiver full access to the external arm of the dildo. Because the wearer is stationary, it’s much easier for them to focus on their Kegel muscles to hold the internal anchor in place.
Critical Safety & Hygiene Guide
Your health is not a place to cut corners. Using intimate products requires a strict adherence to safety protocols. Here is what you need to know about keeping your Lesley and your body safe.
1. The Golden Rule of Lube
Question: Can I use silicone lube with this toy?
Answer: No. Never.
Since the Bombex Lesley is made of high-quality medical-grade silicone, you must use water-based lubricant. Mixing silicone lube with a silicone toy causes a chemical reaction that breaks down the surface of the toy, turning it gummy and porous. Once that happens, the toy is ruined and becomes a breeding ground for bacteria. According to Healthline's guide on silicone lube compatibility, silicone-based lubricants are incompatible with silicone toys for this exact reason. Stick to high-quality water-based options like Sliquid or generic pharmacy brands.
2. Cleaning Routine
Because the Lesley is detachable, cleaning is easier than with unibody toys. However, hygiene is vital.
- Before and After: Wash the toy with warm water and mild, fragrance-free soap or a dedicated toy cleaner.
- The Nooks and Crannies: Pay special attention to the magnetic connection points. Ensure they are dry before reconnecting the motors to avoid corrosion.
- Storage: Store your silicone toys in a cloth bag or their original box. Do not let them touch other toys made of different materials (like jelly or TPE), as they can react chemically and "melt" into each other.
3. Material Safety
We specifically recommend the Lesley because it uses body-safe silicone. Many cheap novelty toys contain phthalates—chemicals used to soften plastics that can disrupt hormones. Planned Parenthood's guide on cleaning sex toys emphasizes the importance of using non-porous materials for internal use to prevent infection transmission. Always check the packaging: if it smells like a shower curtain or a new tire, do not put it inside your body.
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ)
How do I stop the double dildo from falling out?
This is the most common issue. First, ensure you are using a toy with an ergonomic bulb or U-shape, like the Lesley. Second, use plenty of water-based lube; dry friction pulls the toy out. Finally, try positions where your legs are closed or intertwined (like scissoring or the "Lotus Lock") to naturally press the toy into place.
Does size matter for the wearer end?
Yes. If the internal anchor is too long or too thick, it can hit the cervix and cause pain. If it's too small, it won't stay in. The Bombex Lesley is designed with an "average" anatomical fit in mind, prioritizing a bulbous shape for grip rather than excessive length, making it comfortable for most users.
Can I use the Lesley double dildo for solo play?
Absolutely. This is one of its unique selling points. The device is detachable, meaning you can separate the parts to use as a standalone vibrator or dildo for solo sessions. You get two toys for the price of one.
Is it waterproof?
The silicone body of the Lesley is waterproof, making it easy to clean and shower-friendly. However, because it is a magnetic detachable toy, always ensure the charging ports and connection points are fully dry before charging.
Will it hurt the first time?
It shouldn't hurt, but it might feel full. If you are the wearer, you are holding an object inside you while moving, which engages muscles you might not be used to using. Start with the lowest vibration setting and use generous amounts of lube. If you feel pain, stop, adjust the angle, or switch positions.
The Verdict
Finding the perfect double strap on is about balancing engineering with intimacy. You want a toy that stays put so you can focus on your partner, not on adjusting a piece of plastic every thirty seconds.
We love the Lesley: Triple-Motor Detachable Double Dildo for Lesbian Couples because it solves the practical issues of stability while adding the fun of triple-motor vibration. It is safe, versatile, and designed by a brand that actually understands female anatomy.
Ready to upgrade your shared play? Check out the Lesley here and experience the difference a well-designed toy makes.
