Let's be real for a second—finding the perfect double-ended toy is often more complicated than it should be. You want something that stays in place, hits the right spots for both of you, and doesn't require a master's degree in engineering to put on. If you’ve been searching for a "double pen strap on," you are likely looking for a way to share intimacy where both partners get stimulated simultaneously. It’s the holy grail of lesbian sex toys.
The problem? Traditional harness-based options can sometimes feel bulky, disconnected, or just difficult to maneuver. That's where the next generation of ergonomic, strapless, and wearable designs comes in. We’ve tested the options, analyzed the materials, and broken down exactly how to make this work for your bedroom.
Quick Summary: What You Need to Know
What is a double pen strap on?
Technically, this term refers to a "double-ended dildo" or a "strapless strap-on." It is a sex toy designed with two insertable ends allowing two partners to be penetrated simultaneously during sex, often face-to-face or in a spooning position. While some use a harness, modern "strapless" versions rely on pelvic muscles and ergonomic shaping to stay in place.
Why switch to strapless/wearable?
They offer more skin-to-skin contact, easier transitions between positions, and often include vibration for clitoral stimulation—something a standard silicone dong in a harness lacks.
Our Top Pick:
For stability and shared sensation, we recommend the Lesley: Triple-Motor Detachable Double Dildo for Lesbian Couples. It solves the "slipping out" problem with a U-shaped design and adds three motors for simultaneous buzz.
Buying Criteria: How to Choose a Shared Toy
What makes a double dildo actually work? It comes down to material, shape, and motor placement. Before you buy, you need to understand the mechanics of how these toys interact with two bodies at once.
1. Material Safety (Non-Negotiable)
You must prioritize medical-grade silicone. This is the gold standard for a reason. Porous materials (like jelly or rubber) have microscopic holes that trap bacteria, which can lead to infections like Bacterial Vaginosis or yeast infections. Silicone is non-porous, can be sterilized, and warms to body temperature. Never settle for "novelty" materials for internal use.
2. The Shape and Fit
Ergonomics are everything. If the toy is basically a straight stick, it will pop out the moment you move. Look for:
- The U-Shape or C-Shape: This design hooks around the wearer's pelvic bone (specifically the pubic symphysis), using anatomy to hold the toy in place rather than just muscle clenching.
- Bulbous Ends: A slightly wider head helps anchor the toy inside the vagina, providing that "full" feeling and preventing slippage.
- Flexibility: The bridge (the middle part) needs to be firm enough to thrust but flexible enough to bend with your bodies.
3. Vibration and Motors
Standard strap-ons are usually static. But why miss out on clitoral stimulation? A double pen option with integrated motors stimulates the G-spot internally and the clitoris externally (through resonance). Look for independent controls so one partner isn't overwhelmed while the other is just getting started.
Product Spotlight: The Lesley Solution
Why do we recommend the Lesley for couples? It addresses the single biggest complaint about strapless double dildos: stability. Standard strapless toys often require the wearer to clench their Kegel muscles constantly, which is exhausting and can kill the mood. The Lesley: Triple-Motor Detachable Double Dildo for Lesbian Couples uses a smarter design philosophy.
Here is how it compares to a traditional harness setup:
| Feature | Traditional Strap-On | BOMBEX Lesley (Wearable) |
|---|---|---|
| Setup Time | High (Adjusting buckles/straps) | Instant (Slip in and play) |
| Sensation | One-sided (Receiver only) | Shared (Internal/External for both) |
| Barrier | Fabric creates distance | Zero (Full skin-to-skin contact) |
| Versatility | Couple play only | 2-in-1 (Detachable for solo play) |
The Lesley features a detachable design, meaning you can separate the vibrating bullet or the wearable section for solo sessions. The triple-motor configuration ensures that the vibration travels through the silicone to both the wearer and the receiver. Plus, the U-shape creates a natural anchor, allowing you to focus on your partner rather than worrying about the toy falling on the floor.
Detailed Guide: Positions for Double Pen Toys
How do you actually use a double dildo? Buying it is the easy part. Using it requires a bit of coordination, communication, and the right angles. Because you are connected by a relatively short bridge of silicone, your movements must be synchronized. Here are four positions that maximize pleasure and stability for the Lesley or similar double-ended toys.
1. The Scissor (Face-to-Face Intimacy)
This is the classic position for double-ended toys and offers the most intimacy.
- The Setup: Both partners lie on their sides facing each other. Interlace your legs so that your pelvic areas are aligned.
- The Insertion: One partner (the wearer) inserts the shorter or "wearer" end first. Once secure, guide the longer end into the receiving partner.
- The Motion: Instead of thrusting in and out (which can dislodge the toy), focus on grinding or rocking motions. Press your hips together. The friction against the clitoris, combined with the internal fullness, creates a blended orgasm.
- Pro Tip: Use a thigh pillow under the bottom partner’s leg to tilt the hips slightly upward, creating a better angle for connection.
2. The Stack (Spooning / Rear Entry)
Perfect for lazy Sunday mornings or deep, G-spot focused stimulation.
- The Setup: Both partners lie on their sides, facing the same direction (spooning). The giving partner is behind the receiving partner.
- The Insertion: This can be trickier to align. The partner behind inserts their end first. Then, the partner in front reaches back to guide the external end inside them.
- The Motion: The partner in the back controls the rhythm. Since you are flush against each other, the depth of penetration is very consistent. This position is excellent for keeping the toy secure because the glutes of the receiving partner help hold the device in place against the giving partner.
3. The Modified Missionary
If you want power and depth, this vertical variation works wonders.
- The Setup: The receiving partner lies on their back, legs spread. The wearing partner kneels between their legs.
- The Insertion: The wearing partner inserts their end and then lowers themselves onto the receiving partner.
- The Motion: The top partner has full control here. By leaning forward and placing hands on the bed near the receiving partner's head, you create a stable "bridge." This allows for more vigorous thrusting than scissoring.
- Stability Tip: If the toy feels loose, the wearing partner should squeeze their Kegel muscles. The Lesley helps here with its bulbous design, but muscle control still aids the experience.
4. The Lotus (Lap Sitting)
This position maximizes eye contact and allows for deep kissing.
- The Setup: The wearing partner sits cross-legged (or with legs extended) on the bed. The receiving partner straddles them, facing forward.
- The Insertion: The receiving partner lowers themselves onto the toy. Gravity is your friend here—it helps keep the connection deep.
- The Motion: The receiving partner controls the depth and speed by bouncing or grinding. The wearing partner can use their hands to caress breasts, hold hips, or stimulate the clitoris manually. This is often cited as the most emotional and connected position for double penetration.
Critical Safety & Hygiene: What You Must Know
Is silicone safe? Yes, but only if you care for it correctly. When you are sharing a toy internally between two bodies, hygiene stops being optional—it becomes critical for your health.
1. Silicone and Lube Science
There is one golden rule you cannot break: Never use silicone lubricant with silicone toys.
Silicone oil dissolves solid silicone. If you use a silicone-based lube with the Lesley, the surface of the toy will eventually become tacky, gummy, and degrade. Once the surface degrades, it becomes porous. Porous silicone can trap bacteria that no amount of washing will remove.
The Solution: Always use a high-quality water-based lubricant. It is safe for the toy, easy to clean up, and won't stain your sheets. According to expert guides on sex toy care, keeping your toys clean and using the right lubricant is the first line of defense against infections.
2. Cleaning Routine
Because the Lesley is waterproof (IPX7 rating), cleaning is straightforward, but it must be thorough.
- Step 1: Immediately after use, rinse the toy with warm water to remove fluids.
- Step 2: Use a dedicated toy cleaner or a mild, fragrance-free anti-bacterial soap. Avoid harsh chemicals or bleach, which can damage the silicone surface.
- Step 3: Scrub all crevices, especially around the motor buttons and the bridge where fluids can settle.
- Step 4: Pat dry with a lint-free cloth or let it air dry completely before storing.
Deep Cleaning: Since the Lesley contains motors and a battery, you cannot boil it. Boiling is only for solid, non-electronic silicone toys. For electronic toys, a thorough wash with soap and warm water is sufficient to remove bacteria.
Frequently Asked Questions
How do I keep a strapless double dildo from falling out?
This is the most common challenge. First, ensure you are using a toy with an ergonomic U-shape or bulbous ends, like the Lesley, which is designed to anchor internally. Second, use plenty of water-based lube; friction is what pulls the toy out, not the size. Finally, try positions where your bodies are pressed flush together (like scissoring or spooning) to physically block the toy from slipping.
Does using a double pen strap on hurt?
It should not hurt. If it does, stop immediately. Pain usually comes from lack of lubrication or a size mismatch. Start slowly, use ample lubricant, and communicate constantly. If you are new to this, start with a smaller toy or use the solo mode of the Lesley first to get used to the girth before attempting couple play.
Can we use a double dildo if we are different sizes?
Yes, but you have to be strategic. Double-ended toys usually have one end that is slightly longer or thicker. The partner who can accommodate more size should take the larger end. If the disparity is significant, you might prefer a harness with a double-sided attachment where you can swap out dildos of different sizes, though strapless options like the Lesley offer a generic "average" size that fits most women comfortably.
Is a strapless toy better than a harness?
"Better" is subjective. A harness offers maximum stability for vigorous, athletic sex. A strapless toy offers maximum intimacy, skin-to-skin contact, and shared stimulation. For emotional connection and simultaneous pleasure, strapless is often preferred. For hard pounding, a harness is usually superior.
How do I charge the Lesley double dildo?
The Lesley utilizes a magnetic USB charging method. Simply attach the magnetic pin to the charging port on the toy. It keeps the toy waterproof by eliminating open ports. A full charge typically provides about 60 to 90 minutes of playtime depending on the vibration intensity used.
Final Thoughts
Exploring shared pleasure with a double pen strap on or wearable vibrator can transform your intimacy. It moves the experience from "one person giving, one person receiving" to a truly mutual event where you are connected—literally and physically. By choosing a body-safe, ergonomic option like the Lesley: Triple-Motor Detachable Double Dildo, you remove the hassle of buckles and straps, leaving more room for what actually matters: the connection between you and your partner.
Ready to try it? Check out the Lesley here and bring a new level of closeness to your bedroom.
