Let's be real for a second. We all love the idea of a strapless, 2 sided strap on. It promises the holy grail of lesbian intimacy: being filled while filling your partner, hands-free, face-to-face, with nothing between you but skin and sensation. But the reality? It often involves a lot of slipping, sliding, and awkward readjustments that kill the mood faster than a knock at the door.
Finding a toy that stays put while delivering power to both partners is genuinely difficult. You need ergonomics that actually work with female anatomy, not against it. That’s why we tested the options to find the gear that actually facilitates that deep, connected intimacy you’re looking for.
Quick Summary: Our Top Pick
What is the best 2 sided strap on? For stability and simultaneous stimulation, we recommend the Lesley: Triple-Motor Detachable Double Dildo for Lesbian Couples.
Why? Unlike standard straight double dildos that pop out, the Lesley uses a U-shape ergonomic design to grip the wearer naturally. Plus, it has three motors (yes, three) to ensure neither partner is left doing all the work without the reward.
What Exactly is a 2 Sided Strap On?
A 2 sided strap on—often called a strapless strap-on or double dildo—is a sex toy designed to be inserted into two partners simultaneously without the need for a harness.
Typically, one end is shorter or bulbous (for the wearer) and the other is longer (for the receiver). The magic lies in the bridge between them. When the fit is right, the wearer’s pelvic muscles grip the internal bulb, holding the toy in place. This allows for face-to-face sex where your bodies are pressed flush against each other, creating an emotional and physical closeness that harness-based play sometimes lacks.
Buying Criteria: How to Avoid the "Slip-Out"
The market is flooded with cheap jelly toys that smell like tires and refuse to stay inside. To find a winner, you need to look at three specific factors.
- Material Safety: You want 100% medical-grade silicone. It’s non-porous, body-safe, and retains body heat. Avoid "jelly" or "TPR" materials as they can degrade and harbor bacteria.
- The "Grip" Factor: Look for a bulbous internal end or a U-shape structure. A straight stick will slide out the moment you start moving. The wearer needs something substantial to clamp down on with their Kegel muscles.
- Vibration Power: Many double dildos are dead silicone. If you want clitoral stimulation during penetration, opt for a model with internal motors. This bridges the gap between penetration and orgasm for many women.
Why We Recommend the Lesley for Face-to-Face Intimacy
We have tried our fair share of double dildos, and the Lesley: Triple-Motor Detachable Double Dildo for Lesbian Couples stands out because it solves the stability issue while adding a layer of versatility most toys ignore.
Here is how it compares to the standard market options:
| Feature | Standard Strapless Toy | BOMBEX Lesley |
|---|---|---|
| Stability | Often slips out during vigorous movement. | U-Shape Design contours to the pelvis for a secure, hands-free fit. |
| Stimulation | Usually non-vibrating or single weak motor. | Triple Motors provide intense stimulation to both partners simultaneously. |
| Versatility | One solid piece; couple use only. | Detachable 2-in-1 structure allowing for solo play or partner play. |
| Material | Often porous PVC/TPR. | Medical-grade, body-safe silicone. |
4 Best Positions for 2 Sided Strap Ons
Having the right equipment is half the battle. The other half is knowing how to move. Face-to-face sex with a double dildo requires a different rhythm than strap-on sex with a harness. Because the toy relies on the wearer's internal muscles for stability, grinding motions work better than thrusting motions.
Here are the four best positions to maximize pleasure and stability with your Lesley double dildo.
1. The Lotus Embrace (Sitting)
This is the ultimate position for emotional intimacy and stability.
How to do it: The receiving partner sits cross-legged on the bed or a sturdy chair. The wearing partner (with the Lesley inserted) straddles the receiver's lap, wrapping their legs around the receiver's waist.
Why it works: Gravity helps keep the toy in place. Because your hips are pressed tightly together, the toy has very little room to slip out. This position allows for deep kissing, eye contact, and easy access to manual clitoral stimulation. Use the grinding motion of your hips to stimulate the G-spots of both partners simultaneously.
2. The Scissoring Lock
Scissoring is often criticized for being difficult to align, but a 2 sided strap on bridges the gap perfectly.
How to do it: Lie on your sides facing each other. Interlace your legs—one partner’s top leg goes over the other’s hip. Slide the toy in.
Why it works: This is a very low-energy position perfect for long, slow sessions. The triple motors in the Lesley will vibrate against the clitoris of both partners (external contact) while providing internal fullness. If the toy feels loose, squeeze your thighs together to tighten the grip.
3. The Face-to-Face Missionary
A classic for a reason, though it requires some core strength from the wearer.
How to do it: The receiver lies on their back with legs spread. The wearer enters from above, lying between the receiver's legs.
Why it works: This allows the wearer to control the depth and angle. For better stability, the receiver can wrap their legs around the wearer's lower back. This "locks" the hips together, ensuring the strapless dildo stays deeply inserted in both partners. It’s ideal for heavy making out and feeling the full weight of your partner.
4. The Lazy Sunday (Spooning Variation)
While spooning is technically back-to-front, you can modify it for face-to-face contact by turning your heads or slightly angling your bodies.
How to do it: Both partners lie on their sides. The wearer is the "big spoon" but angles their chest toward the receiver's back.
Why it works: With the Lesley's U-shape, the wearer can press firmly against the receiver's glutes. This stimulates the wearer's G-spot heavily. To make it face-to-face, simply have the "little spoon" roll slightly onto their back while the wearer stays on their side, creating a half-spoon, half-missionary angle that is incredibly comfortable.
Critical Safety, Hygiene & Material Science
We cannot stress this enough: Medical-grade silicone is the only material you should trust internally. Here is the science on why, and how to keep your gear safe.
The Danger of Porous Materials
Many cheaper sex toys are made of TPR (Thermoplastic Rubber) or jelly. Under a microscope, these materials look like sponges—they are full of tiny holes (pores). Bacteria, yeast, and bodily fluids get trapped in these pores and cannot be washed out, potentially leading to BV (Bacterial Vaginosis) or yeast infections.
The Lesley Double Dildo is made from high-quality, non-porous silicone. This means it has a smooth surface that bacteria cannot penetrate, making it simple to sterilize.
Lubricant Chemistry: Water vs. Silicone
Rule #1 of toy care: Never use silicone-based lube with silicone toys.
Silicone lubricant and silicone toys share the same chemical base. If you use them together, a chemical reaction occurs that causes the toy to dissolve, becoming tacky and permanently damaged.
The Solution: Always stick to high-quality water-based lubricants. They are safe for silicone, easy to clean up, and won't damage the delicate surface of your Lesley dildo.
Cleaning Routine
According to the Mayo Clinic, cleaning your sex toys after every use is vital for sexual health.
- Immediate: Wash the toy with warm water and mild, fragrance-free soap immediately after use.
- Deep Clean: Since the Lesley contains motors, do not boil it. Instead, use a specialized sex toy cleaner spray that breaks down biological material.
- Dry: Pat dry with a lint-free cloth or let it air dry completely before storing it in a dust-free bag.
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ)
Do strapless strap-ons really stay in?
Yes, but they require a specific fit and muscle engagement. A 2 sided strap on works by the wearer gripping the internal bulb with their pelvic floor (Kegel) muscles. Ergonomic designs like the Lesley, which features a U-shape, assist with this by hooking naturally over the pelvic bone, providing much more stability than straight toys.
Can I use the Lesley Double Dildo for solo play?
Absolutely. This is one of the main advantages of the Lesley model. It is detachable, meaning you can separate the parts. You can use the vibrating insert for solo internal or external play, making it a 2-in-1 investment.
How do we sync orgasms with a double dildo?
Communication is key, but the technology helps. The Lesley features triple motors that stimulate both the wearer and the receiver simultaneously. By adjusting the vibration modes to a setting that works for both of you, and maintaining close face-to-face contact (like in the Lotus position), you can build tension together.
Is a double dildo suitable for beginners?
Yes, provided you start slowly. The sensation of "filling" and "being filled" at the same time can be intense. We recommend using plenty of water-based lube and starting in a side-lying position (scissoring) where you can easily control the depth and speed.
Does size matter for the wearer's end?
For the wearer, shape matters more than length. The internal end needs to be bulbous enough to "anchor" inside the vagina. If it is too thin, it will slip out. If it is too long, it might hit the cervix, which can be uncomfortable. The Lesley is designed with average anatomical depths in mind to maximize comfort for the wearer.
Final Thoughts: Elevating Your Intimacy
Choosing the best 2 sided strap on is about more than just buying a toy; it is about choosing a tool that brings you closer to your partner. We love the Lesley: Triple-Motor Detachable Double Dildo for Lesbian Couples because it removes the technical frustrations of strapless play—the slipping, the silence, the awkward angles—and replaces them with stability and shared vibration.
Ready to ditch the harness and get closer than ever? Check out the Lesley and experience face-to-face intimacy the way it was meant to be.
