Let’s be real for a second: finding the perfect double sided strap on (often called a strapless strap-on or double dildo) is surprisingly difficult. We’ve all been there—you buy something that looks promising online, but when you actually try to use it, it’s too heavy, too hard, or worst of all, it slips out every time you try to change rhythm. It ruins the mood instantly.
But when you find the right one? It’s a total game-changer for lesbian intimacy. It allows for a level of closeness and simultaneous connection that standard harness-play just can’t replicate. We are talking about face-to-face intimacy, shared vibrations, and that incredible feeling of being filled while filling your partner.
In this guide, I’m breaking down exactly how to choose a toy that fits your anatomy, how to actually keep it in (yes, there is a technique), and why ergonomic designs like the Lesley: Triple-Motor Detachable Double Dildo for Lesbian Couples are leading the pack in 2024.
Quick Summary: The "TL;DR"
What is a double sided strap on? It is a sex toy with two insertable ends designed for two partners to use simultaneously, typically without a harness. One end is worn internally by the "giver" to hold it in place, while the other is used on the "receiver."
Top Recommendation: We chose the BOMBEX Lesley because it solves the biggest complaint: slippage. Its U-shape design grips the pelvic bone naturally, and the triple motors ensure the wearer isn't just a "prop"—they get just as much pleasure as the receiver.
Key Safety Tip: Always use medical-grade silicone and water-based lubricant. Never use silicone lube with silicone toys.
Buying Criteria: What Actually Matters?
Before you hit "add to cart," you need to understand the mechanics. Not all double dildos are created equal. Here is the checklist I use when evaluating sexual wellness products.
1. Material Safety
The Rule: Only buy 100% medical-grade silicone.
Cheap toys are often made of jelly, PVC, or TPR. These materials are porous. This means they have microscopic holes that trap bacteria, yeast, and bodily fluids. No matter how much you scrub them, you cannot fully sterilize them. Medical-grade silicone is non-porous, hypoallergenic, and boils-safe. Organizations like Planned Parenthood consistently recommend silicone for its safety profile and ease of cleaning.
2. The Shape (Ergonomics)
The Rule: Look for a bulbous internal anchor or a U-shape.
The number one failure of strapless toys is that they fall out. If the end meant for the wearer is just a straight stick, your pelvic floor muscles have nothing to grab onto. You want a design that is slightly larger on the wearer's end or has a specific curve (like the Lesley) that tucks behind the pelvic bone. This allows you to relax a little without fearing the toy will drop to the mattress.
3. Vibration Power
The Rule: Rumbly, not buzzy.
High-pitched "buzzy" vibrations tend to numb the clitoris after a few minutes. You want deep, rumbly motors. Furthermore, many double dildos only vibrate on the receiver's end. That’s unfair. Look for toys with dedicated motors for the wearer's internal stimulation and clitoral contact.
Product Spotlight: Why We Recommend The Lesley
After reviewing the specs and user feedback, the BOMBEX Lesley stands out as a solution designed specifically for lesbian bodies, rather than just a novelty item. Most standard double dildos are rigid, heavy, and silent. The Lesley takes a different approach by incorporating flexibility and independent stimulation.
Here is how it stacks up against a generic "budget" double dildo:
| Feature | Generic Double Dildo | BOMBEX Lesley |
|---|---|---|
| Stability | Often slips out; requires constant clenching. | U-Shape design hugs the pelvis for hands-free wear. |
| Stimulation | Usually non-vibrating or weak single motor. | Triple Motors (Both ends + Clitoral stimulator). |
| Versatility | One solid piece. | Detachable 2-in-1 (Can be used as a solo vibrator). |
| Material | Often PVC or TPR (smells like rubber). | Premium Body-Safe Silicone. |
The standout feature here is the detachable design. Sometimes you aren't in the mood for full penetration, or you want to use the vibrating element for foreplay before the main event. The Lesley allows you to pull the vibrating bullet out for solo play or external couple play, effectively giving you two toys for the price of one.
Detailed Guide: Mastering Positions & Technique
Buying the Lesley: Triple-Motor Detachable Double Dildo for Lesbian Couples is step one. Using it without it flying across the room is step two. Double sided strap ons require a different set of physical mechanics than harness play or standard penetrative sex.
Because there are no straps to hold the toy to your body, the "wearer" must use their pelvic floor muscles (Kegels) to keep the internal end secure. This creates a feedback loop: the harder you clench to hold it, the more stimulation you feel. It is a workout, but a very pleasurable one.
Here are three positions optimized for strapless play, moving from beginner to advanced.
1. The Scissor Lotus (Intimacy & Stability)
Best for: Beginners and high emotional connection.
This is the "classic" lesbian position for a reason. It maximizes skin-to-skin contact and stability.
- Setup: Both partners lie on their sides facing each other. Intertwine your legs (scissoring) to bring your pelvic areas close together.
- The Wearer: Insert the shorter/bulbous end of the Lesley into yourself. Clench your pelvic muscles. Because your legs are intertwined with your partner's, your thighs help keep the toy in place externally, reducing the work your internal muscles have to do.
- The Motion: Instead of thrusting in and out (which causes slipping), focus on grinding and rocking your hips. The friction of the clitoral stimulators rubbing against both of you is the main event here. Use the triple motors to bridge the gap between grinding and orgasm.
2. The Riding Embrace (Deep Penetration)
Best for: Control for the receiver and deep G-spot access.
In this position, gravity works against the wearer, so it requires a good fit, but the payoff is incredible depth.
- Setup: The wearer lies flat on their back. The receiver straddles the wearer, facing them.
- The Wearer: Keep your legs slightly closed or bent at the knees to tighten the vaginal canal, gripping the toy firmly. You are the anchor.
- The Receiver: Lower yourself onto the upward-facing end of the Lesley. You have full control over the depth and speed.
- The Tip: Because the wearer is stationary, they can use their hands to caress the receiver’s breasts or use a separate external vibe on the receiver’s clitoris. This position creates a beautiful view and allows for intense eye contact.
3. Modified Doggy (Power Play)
Best for: Hitting the A-spot or cervix.
Standard doggy style is tricky with a strapless toy because if the wearer pulls out too far, the toy falls. This modified version fixes that.
- Setup: The receiver is on hands and knees. The wearer kneels behind them, but very close.
- The Technique: The wearer inserts their end and presses their pelvis firmly against the receiver’s buttocks.
- The Motion: Do not pull back! Instead, use a circular, grinding motion against the receiver’s glutes. This stimulates the wearer’s clitoris against the receiver's body while maintaining internal pressure for both. It’s less about "in-and-out" and more about "pressure and rotation."
Critical Safety & Hygiene: Don't Skip This
We cannot talk about sex toys without talking about health. The vagina is a delicate ecosystem, and introducing foreign objects requires care. Since you are sharing this toy simultaneously, hygiene is doubly important.
The Golden Rule of Lube
If you take one thing away from this article, let it be this: Water-based lubricant only.
High-quality toys like the Lesley are made of silicone. If you use a silicone-based lubricant, a chemical reaction occurs. The silicone in the lube binds to the silicone in the toy, causing the surface of the toy to melt, warp, and become pitted. These pits become breeding grounds for bacteria. Always check the bottle ingredients. If it lists "Dimethicone" or "Cyclopentasiloxane," put it back. Stick to water-based options like Sliquid or generic pharmacy brands that are clearly labeled "water-based."
Furthermore, because double dildos involve two bodies, friction is doubled. Be generous with the lube. Apply it to both ends of the toy and both partners before insertion to prevent micro-tears in the vaginal tissue, which can increase susceptibility to STIs or BV (Bacterial Vaginosis).
Cleaning Routine
You need to clean the toy before and after use. Since the Lesley is detachable, take it apart before cleaning to ensure water doesn't get trapped in any crevices (though the motor unit is waterproof, it's easier to clean the silicone sleeve separately).
- Rinse: Run under warm water to remove fluids and lube.
- Soap: Use a mild, unscented soap (like Dial or a dedicated toy cleaner). Avoid harsh detergents or scented body washes, as residue can irritate the vagina.
- Dry: Pat dry with a lint-free cloth or let it air dry completely before storing.
- Storage: Store your silicone toys in a cloth bag or a separate drawer. Do not let them touch other toys made of different materials (like jelly or TPR), as they can react chemically and melt each other.
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ)
How do I keep a strapless strap-on from falling out?
The key is anatomy and muscle engagement. First, ensure the toy has a bulbous or curved end for the wearer to grip. Second, engage your pelvic floor muscles (Kegels) to hold the internal anchor in place. Finally, choose positions that keep your bodies pressed together (like scissoring or the rider position) to prevent the toy from slipping out during movement.
Does using a double dildo hurt?
It shouldn't hurt! If it does, you may be using a toy that is too large, or you aren't using enough lubrication. Start with a smaller diameter toy if you are new to penetration. Always use plenty of water-based lubricant. If pain persists, stop immediately and consult a healthcare provider, as it could indicate conditions like vaginismus.
Can I use the BOMBEX Lesley for solo play?
Yes, absolutely. This is one of the main benefits of the Lesley: Triple-Motor Detachable Double Dildo for Lesbian Couples. The vibrating unit is detachable, meaning you can remove it from the double-ended sleeve and use it as a standalone vibrator for solo sessions or external foreplay.
Is it safe to share a double dildo?
Fluid exchange is inevitable with a double dildo. If you and your partner have not been tested for STIs, or if you are non-monogamous, this presents a transmission risk. In these cases, you can use condoms on both ends of the toy. However, for established fluid-bonded couples, simply cleaning the toy with soap and water between sessions is sufficient.
How long does the battery last on the Lesley?
Battery life varies by vibration intensity, but generally, rechargeable toys like the Lesley offer between 60 to 90 minutes of continuous play on a full charge. We recommend charging it fully after every session so it's ready when you are.
The Bottom Line
Finding the right tools for your sex life is about more than just buying a product; it’s about investing in your connection. A great double sided strap on removes the barrier of harnesses and straps, allowing for a raw, intimate experience that brings you and your partner closer—literally and emotionally.
If you are ready to ditch the hassle of straps and experience simultaneous triple-motor stimulation, the Lesley: Triple-Motor Detachable Double Dildo for Lesbian Couples is our top recommendation for safety, comfort, and pleasure. It’s time to stop worrying about the toy slipping out and start focusing on the person in front of you.
