Let's be real for a second: finding a high quality strap on that doesn't feel like you're gearing up for a rock climbing expedition is tough. We have all been there—fumbling with buckles, adjusting straps that dig into your hips, and dealing with "harness sag" right when things are getting good. It’s a mood killer.
When you are looking for the best strap-on experience, you aren't just looking for a piece of plastic. You are looking for connection, stability, and mutual pleasure. At Bombex, we believe the future of lesbian intimacy isn't about more straps; it's about better engineering. If you are tired of the hassle and want a toy that actually stays put while stimulating both partners, it is time to look at ergonomic, high-quality strapless options.
Quick Summary: What is the Best High Quality Strap On Option?
The Bottom Line: A "high quality" strap on must be made of 100% medical-grade silicone, offer hands-free stability, and provide stimulation for the wearer, not just the receiver.
Top Pick: We recommend the Lesley: Triple-Motor Detachable Double Dildo for Lesbian Couples. Unlike traditional harnesses, its U-shape design uses anatomy (not straps) to stay in place, offering triple-motor vibration for simultaneous G-spot stimulation for both partners.
What Defines a "High Quality" Strap On?
A high quality strap on is defined by three non-negotiable factors: body-safe materials (specifically medical-grade silicone), motor durability, and ergonomic stability. If a brand fails on any of these three, it belongs in the trash, not your nightstand.
When we evaluate toys at Bombex, we look at the science of the materials first. Cheap strap-ons often use TPR or TPE (jelly-like materials). These are porous, meaning they have microscopic holes that trap bacteria and can cause infections. A true premium toy uses non-porous, medical-grade silicone. It’s smoother, warms to your body temperature, and is biologically inert, meaning it won't react with your body chemistry.
Next is the motor. A high-quality toy doesn't just buzz; it rumbles. Deep, rumbly vibrations penetrate tissue to reach nerve endings effectively, whereas high-pitched "buzzy" motors just numb the skin. Finally, stability is key. If you have to stop every thirty seconds to tighten a strap, the immersion is broken. This is why we are seeing a massive shift toward "strapless" or internal-retention designs that use the wearer's pelvic muscles to hold the toy secure.
Product Spotlight: Why We Chose the BOMBEX Lesley
The Lesley isn't just a dildo; it is a complete system designed to solve the "wearer pleasure gap." In traditional strap-on play, the wearer is often just a service provider, feeling nothing but the friction of a harness. The Lesley: Triple-Motor Detachable Double Dildo for Lesbian Couples changes that dynamic entirely.
Here is how the Lesley compares to a standard high-end harness setup:
| Feature | Traditional Harness Setup | BOMBEX Lesley (Strapless) |
|---|---|---|
| Wearer Stimulation | Usually none (requires separate bullet vibe). | Triple Motors: Internal bulb vibrates against wearer's G-spot. |
| Setup Time | 3-5 minutes (adjusting buckles/rings). | Instant: Insert and go. |
| Versatility | Strictly for partner play. | 2-in-1: Detachable shaft for solo play or hand-held use. |
| Material | Nylon/Leather (hard to clean). | 100% Silicone: Waterproof and easy to sanitize. |
4 Positions to Maximize Intimacy with a Strapless Double Dildo
Mastering a strapless toy like the Lesley takes a little bit of practice, but the payoff is incredible. Because you are using your pelvic floor muscles to hold the internal bulb in place, you gain a sense of control and connection that straps just can't mimic. Here are four positions we have tested and loved, specifically optimized for this type of high quality strap on.
1. The Lotus (Face-to-Face Connection)
This is the holy grail of intimacy. The receiving partner sits cross-legged or with legs butterfly-open. The wearing partner sits on the receiver's lap, wrapping their legs around the receiver's waist.
- Why it works: The gravity helps keep the strapless toy in place naturally. Because you are chest-to-chest, you can kiss and maintain eye contact while the triple motors stimulate the wearer's G-spot and the receiver simultaneously.
- Pro Tip: The wearing partner should rock their hips in a grinding motion rather than thrusting in and out. This grinding maximizes the vibration contact for both of you.
2. The Spoon (Lazy Sunday Vibes)
Perfect for slow mornings. Both partners lie on their sides, with the wearing partner behind (big spoon) and the receiving partner in front (little spoon).
- Why it works: This position is fantastic for deep G-spot access for the receiver. The wearing partner can press their hips firmly against the receiver's glutes, which stabilizes the base of the Lesley.
- Pro Tip: The wearer can use one hand to hold the base of the toy for extra stability during more vigorous movement, while using the other hand to caress their partner.
3. Modified Missionary (The Anchor)
Standard missionary can be tricky with a strapless toy if you try to do push-up style thrusting. Instead, try the "Anchor" method. The receiving partner lies on their back with pillows under their hips to tilt the pelvis up. The wearing partner lies on top but keeps their weight supported on their forearms or elbows, keeping the pelvises pressed close together.
- Why it works: By keeping the pelvises flushed against each other, the internal bulb of the toy stays securely hooked behind the wearer's pubic bone.
- Pro Tip: Use the "CAT" (Coital Alignment Technique) motion—a rhythmic sliding and grinding pressure—rather than pulling all the way out and thrusting back in.
4. The Edge of the Bed (Standing Delivery)
The receiving partner lies on their back at the very edge of the bed, legs dangling off or resting on the wearing partner’s shoulders. The wearing partner stands between the receiver's legs.
- Why it works: Standing gives the wearing partner excellent leverage and control over the angle of entry. It allows for deeper penetration without the toy slipping out, as gravity is working with the wearer.
- Pro Tip: If there is a height difference, the wearing partner might need to bend their knees slightly or stand on a low step stool to align perfectly.
Critical Safety & Hygiene: Silicone, Lube, and Cleaning
Safety and hygiene are the foundation of good sex. When you invest in a high quality strap on, you need to treat it right to ensure it stays body-safe for years. We cannot stress this enough: material matters.
Why Medical-Grade Silicone is Non-Negotiable
As we mentioned earlier, many cheaper toys are made of porous materials. According to sources like Planned Parenthood, porous materials can harbor bacteria even after washing, which increases the risk of bacterial vaginosis (BV) or yeast infections. Medical-grade silicone, like that used in the Lesley, is non-porous. It creates a barrier against bacteria, making it the safest option for internal use.
The Golden Rule of Lubrication: Water-Based Only
Here is the science part: Silicone is compatible with water, oil, and hybrids, but it is not compatible with silicone oil. If you use a silicone-based lubricant with a high quality silicone strap on, a chemical reaction occurs. The lube will actually bond to the surface of the toy, causing it to degrade, melt, or become pitted and porous.
Always use a high-quality water-based lubricant. It protects the toy and, more importantly, protects your body's delicate mucous membranes from micro-tears during friction. We suggest applying a generous amount to both the internal bulb (for the wearer) and the external shaft (for the receiver).
Cleaning Routine for Motorized Toys
Since the Lesley has internal motors, you cannot just throw it in the dishwasher (which you actually can do with non-motorized pure silicone dildos).
- Immediate Rinse: After use, rinse the toy with warm water to remove fluids.
- Soap: Use a mild, unfragranced soap or a dedicated sex toy cleaner. Antibacterial hand soap can sometimes be too harsh and leave residues that irritate the vagina.
- Scrub: Gently clean all crevices, especially where the detachable mechanism connects.
- Dry: Air dry completely or use a lint-free cloth before storing. Silicone attracts dust, so store it in a cloth bag or a clean toy box, away from other toys made of different materials.
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ)
Do strapless strap-ons actually stay in during sex?
Yes, but fit matters. Strapless toys like the Lesley are designed with a bulbous internal end. When you insert this end, your vaginal muscles (specifically the pelvic floor) naturally contract around the narrower neck of the toy, keeping the bulb anchored behind your pubic bone. Doing Kegel exercises can help, but the ergonomic shape does most of the work for you.
Can I use silicone lube with the Lesley double dildo?
No! Never use silicone lube with a silicone toy. The chemical similarity causes the lube to break down the surface of the toy, making it gummy and porous. Always stick to high-quality water-based lubricants for the safest experience.
How do I know if a strap on is "high quality"?
Look for three things: 1) The material must be listed as "100% Silicone" (not "jelly," "rubber," or "TPR"). 2) The charging method should ideally be magnetic or USB rechargeable rather than replacing batteries, which indicates better internal sealing. 3) The brand should offer a warranty or clear customer support.
Is the Lesley suitable for beginners?
Absolutely. In fact, it's often better for beginners than a harness. Harnesses can be intimidating and complicated to adjust. The Lesley allows you to explore penetration intuitively. Plus, because it is detachable, you can start by using the vibrating shaft handheld to get comfortable before graduating to wearable play.
What if the toy feels too big for the wearer?
Comfort is priority number one. If the internal bulb feels too large, ensure you are using plenty of lube. You also do not have to wear it for the entire session. Many couples swap back and forth—using it handheld for foreplay and then inserting it for penetration when both partners are fully aroused, which allows the vaginal canal to expand naturally.
Ready to Upgrade Your Intimacy?
Finding a high quality strap on shouldn't be a chore. It should be the start of a more connected, pleasurable chapter in your sex life. We have moved past the days of uncomfortable buckles and questionable materials. You deserve a toy that cares about your safety and pleasure as much as you do.
If you are ready to ditch the harness and experience the triple-motor magic of hands-free play, check out the Lesley: Triple-Motor Detachable Double Dildo for Lesbian Couples. It’s our top pick for a reason—it brings you closer, keeps you safe, and feels amazing for everyone involved.
