Let’s be honest: finding the perfect strap on setup is often a chaotic trial-and-error process. We have all been there—fumbling with buckles that pinch, dealing with harnesses that slip at the worst possible moment, or trying to figure out a "universal" O-ring that fits absolutely nothing.
When you are in the heat of the moment, the last thing you want is a logistical nightmare. You want connection, rhythm, and pleasure. That is why the shift toward ergonomic, strapless double dildos has been such a game-changer for the lesbian community. It removes the barrier of "strapping in" and replaces it with a shared, intimate experience.
In this guide, I’m going to skip the fluff and walk you through exactly what to look for, how to use them safely, and why we believe the BOMBEX Lesley is currently the best strap on strapon option on the market.
Quick Summary: The Bottom Line
What is the best strap on strapon?
The best modern option is a strapless double dildo made from medical-grade silicone. Unlike traditional harness sets, these rely on ergonomic U-shapes to stay in place via pelvic muscles, offering stimulation to both partners simultaneously.
Top Pick: BOMBEX Lesley: Triple-Motor Detachable Double Dildo.
Why? It solves the "slippage" issue with a structured U-design, offers 3 motors for shared climax, and splits into two pieces for solo play.
Buying Criteria: What Actually Matters?
Before you click "add to cart," you need to understand the mechanics. Not all silicone is created equal, and not all U-shapes actually fit human bodies. Here is the breakdown.
1. Material Safety
What is it? The substance the toy is made from.
If the description says "Jelly," "PVC," or "TPR," run away. These are porous materials that trap bacteria and can disrupt your pH balance. You strictly want 100% medical-grade silicone. It is non-porous, boilable, and body-safe. According to Planned Parenthood's guide on cleaning sex toys, using non-porous materials is critical for preventing infections like BV.
2. Stability and Ergonomics
What is it? How the toy stays inside the wearer without a harness.
A common complaint with strapless toys is that they fall out. The solution is the bulb size and the curve. The internal arm (the part the wearer inserts) needs to be bulbous enough to "grip" behind the pelvic bone. If it is too straight, it will slide out. We found that designs like the BOMBEX Lesley use a specific U-curve that leverages your natural anatomy to stay put during grinding motions.
3. Motor Function
What is it? The type and placement of vibrations.
Cheap toys use high-pitched "buzzy" motors that numb the clitoris. You want "rumbly" motors that provide deep tissue stimulation. Furthermore, for a strap on strapon set, you need motors in both ends. The wearer deserves just as much stimulation as the receiver.
Product Spotlight: Why We Recommend The Lesley
We tested various models, and the Lesley stood out because it addresses the main pain point of strapless play: versatility. Most strapless dildos are one solid piece of silicone. If you want to use it solo, it is awkward. The Lesley features a detachable design, meaning you get a couple's toy and a solo vibrator in one package.
| Feature | Traditional Harness Setup | BOMBEX Lesley Strapless Set |
|---|---|---|
| Setup Time | High (Adjusting buckles/straps) | Instant (Insert and play) |
| Wearer Pleasure | Minimal (Usually just pressure) | High (Internal vibration & G-spot bulb) |
| Intimacy | Can feel like a barrier | Skin-to-skin contact |
| Versatility | Single use | 2-in-1 (Detachable for solo use) |
Mastering the Moves: 4 Positions for Strapless Play
Using a strap on strapon like the Lesley: Triple-Motor Detachable Double Dildo for Lesbian Couples requires slightly different mechanics than a harness. Since you are holding the toy with your pelvic muscles (Kegels), your range of motion changes. Here is a detailed guide on how to maximize pleasure and stability in four specific positions.
1. The Intimate Lotus (Face-to-Face)
Best for: Emotional connection and clitoral stimulation.
How to do it:
- The "wearer" sits cross-legged or with legs slightly extended on the bed, inserting the shorter, bulbous end of the Lesley.
- The "receiver" straddles the wearer’s lap, wrapping their legs around the wearer’s waist.
- Slowly lower onto the longer shaft.
Why it works: Gravity is your friend here. By sitting upright, the toy stays naturally anchored. This position allows for deep kissing and enables the wearer to grind their clitoris against the base of the toy while the receiver controls the depth. It is less about thrusting and more about grinding and rocking motions.
2. The Spooning Slide
Best for: Lazy Sunday mornings and hitting the G-spot.
How to do it:
- Both partners lie on their sides, with the wearer acting as the "big spoon."
- The wearer inserts the internal end and aligns the external shaft with the receiver’s entrance.
- The receiver may need to lift their top leg slightly (placing it on a pillow helps) to allow entry.
Why it works: This position offers a tighter fit, which helps keep a strapless dildo secure. The angle of entry from behind is often shallower, which is excellent for targeting the anterior wall (G-spot) of the receiver. Because there is less vigorous thrusting, it is easier for the wearer to keep the toy inside without straining their muscles.
3. The Supported Doggy
Best for: Deep penetration and power play.
How to do it:
- The receiver gets on hands and knees.
- The wearer kneels behind them. Crucial Tip: If the wearer leans too far back, the toy may slip.
- To fix this, the wearer should get close, pressing their pelvis firmly against the receiver's glutes.
Why it works: The triple-motor design of the Lesley shines here. As the wearer presses forward, the vibration at the base of the toy is forced against their own clitoris, while the shaft vibrates internally for the partner. Short, rhythmic thrusts are more effective than long, pulled-back strokes in this position to maintain stability.
4. The Reverse Cowgirl (Riding)
Best for: Visual stimulation and receiver control.
How to do it:
- The wearer lies flat on their back with knees bent and feet planted on the mattress. This tilts the pelvis up, locking the toy in place.
- The receiver climbs on top, facing away from the wearer’s face (looking toward the feet).
- The receiver lowers themselves onto the shaft.
Why it works: This is arguably the most stable position for strapless play. The wearer’s pelvic tilt creates a natural "hook" for the internal bulb. The receiver has full control over speed and depth, meaning they can grind down hard without worrying about hurting the wearer. It also leaves the wearer’s hands free to caress the receiver’s back or use an additional clitoral toy on themselves.
Critical Safety & Hygiene: The Science of Silicone
We cannot talk about sex toys without talking about safety. Because you are inserting this product into two bodies simultaneously, hygiene is paramount to prevent cross-contamination or infection.
The Biofilm Danger
We mentioned earlier that you must avoid jelly and rubber toys. The reason is "biofilm." Microscopic bacteria can hide in the pores of cheap materials. Even if you wash a jelly dildo, the bacteria can remain deep inside and resurface later, potentially causing Bacterial Vaginosis (BV) or Yeast Infections. Medical-grade silicone, like that used in the Lesley, is non-porous. When you wash it, it is actually clean.
Lube Science: Osmolality Matters
You must use Water-Based Lubricant with any silicone toy. Why? It is simple chemistry. Silicone oil (found in silicone lubes) is attracted to solid silicone. If you use a silicone lube on the Lesley, it will bond with the surface of the toy, causing it to degrade, melt, or become pitted and sticky. Once that happens, the toy is ruined and unsafe to use.
Additionally, look for lubes with proper osmolality (concentration of particles). Hyperosmolar lubes can damage rectal or vaginal tissues, increasing susceptibility to infection. Resources like Healthline's overview of lube ingredients to avoid provide great lists of iso-osmolar lubricants that match your body's natural balance.
Cleaning Routine
Cleaning a double-ended toy can be tricky if you don't have a routine. Here is our recommended method:
- Immediately after use: Rinse with warm water to remove fluids.
- Soap it up: Use a fragrance-free, antibacterial soap or a dedicated toy cleaner. lather it well, ensuring you clean the crevices between the bulb and the shaft.
- Rinse and Dry: Rinse thoroughly. Silicone does not air-dry quickly on its own because it repels water, so pat it dry with a lint-free towel.
- Storage: Store it in a fabric bag (usually provided) or a clean drawer, away from other silicone toys to prevent them from reacting to each other.
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ)
Do strapless strap ons actually stay in?
Yes, but fit is key. They rely on the "wearer's" pelvic floor muscles (Kegels) to grip the internal bulb. A model like the BOMBEX Lesley uses a specialized U-shape and a bulbous internal end to help anchor the toy behind the pelvic bone. However, in very vigorous positions (like standing up), a harness might still be preferred by some. For bed play, a high-quality ergonomic design stays in very well.
Can I use the Lesley double dildo for solo play?
Absolutely. This is one of the main benefits of the Lesley compared to standard solid silicone molds. It is detachable. You can separate the vibrating bullet/shaft component to use as a handheld wand or a standard dildo for solo sessions, making it a versatile investment.
Does it hurt the wearer?
It should not hurt. If it hurts, stop immediately. The internal bulb is larger than a tampon but smaller than an average dildo. It is designed to fill the vaginal canal snugly. If you are new to inserting anything, use plenty of water-based lube. Many wearers find the feeling of "fullness" and the internal vibrations highly pleasurable rather than painful.
Is the motor loud?
The BOMBEX Lesley is designed with discretion in mind. While no powerful motor is completely silent, it operates at a low decibel level. Under the covers or with a little background music, it is barely noticeable. The triple-motor design focuses the energy into vibrations (feeling) rather than noise (sound).
How do I charge it?
The Lesley utilizes magnetic USB charging. This is important because it means there are no open ports or holes for water and bacteria to enter. The toy remains 100% waterproof. Simply snap the magnetic charger onto the contact points and plug it into any USB port.
Final Thoughts
Switching from a bulky harness to a sleek, strapless double dildo can transform your sex life. It brings you closer—literally skin-to-skin—and adds a layer of shared sensation that old-school strap ons just can't match. Whether you are grinding in the Lotus position or exploring power dynamics in Doggy, the right tool makes all the difference.
If you are ready to ditch the buckles and upgrade your intimacy, we highly recommend you check out the Lesley: Triple-Motor Detachable Double Dildo for Lesbian Couples. It is body-safe, versatile, and designed with your pleasure as the priority.
