Let's be real for a moment: finding the right double dildo is harder than it looks. We have all been there—you buy a cheap strapless toy online, get excited for date night, and then spend the entire session awkwardly trying to keep it from slipping out or realizing the "vibrations" feel more like a buzzing bee than deep satisfaction.
If you are looking for a double dick dildo that actually stays in place, feels realistic, and hits the right spots for both partners simultaneously, you need more than just a piece of silicone molded into a U-shape. You need ergonomics, motor power, and body-safe materials.
In this guide, we are breaking down exactly how to choose a toy that works for lesbian sex, specific positions to maximize intimacy, and why we currently recommend the Lesley: Triple-Motor Detachable Double Dildo for Lesbian Couples as the gold standard for versatility.
Quick Summary: What is the Best Choice?
The Problem: Most standard double dildos are too rigid, prone to slipping out during movement, and lack clitoral stimulation for the wearing partner.
The Solution: Look for a "wearable" design with a bulbous insert for retention and independent motors. Our top pick is the BOMBEX Lesley. It solves the slip-out issue with a contoured shape, offers triple-motor stimulation so both partners finish, and detaches for solo play.
What is a Double Dick Dildo?
A double dick dildo is a dual-ended sex toy designed to penetrate two people simultaneously (usually vaginal-vaginal or anal-vaginal), or two orifices of the same person. Unlike a strap-on which requires a harness, a strapless double dildo is typically held in place by the wearer's vaginal muscles and the toy's ergonomic design.
However, "strapless" doesn't always mean "hands-free." To truly enjoy the experience without constantly readjusting, you need to understand three buying criteria: Material, Motor Placement, and Shape.
1. Material Safety (The Non-Negotiable)
What fits the bill? 100% Medical-Grade Silicone.
Never buy a toy labeled as "jelly," "rubber," or "TPR/TPE" for internal use. These materials are porous, meaning they have microscopic holes that trap bacteria and fungi, which can lead to bacterial vaginosis or yeast infections. We only recommend non-porous silicone because it can be sterilized and is hypoallergenic. According to Planned Parenthood's guide on sex toy safety, non-porous materials like silicone are the safest bet for shared toys because they don't break down or harbor pathogens like cheaper plastics do.
2. Motor Placement and Power
What fits the bill? Internal motors in both ends plus the bridge.
Many basic models are just solid silicone. While the feeling of fullness is nice, the lack of vibration can make it difficult for the wearing partner to reach orgasm. The best double dick dildo options feature motors specifically placed against the wearer's clitoris (the bridge) and inside the insertable shaft for the receiving partner.
3. Shape and Ergonomics
What fits the bill? Bulbous ends and a flexible U-shape.
The number one complaint we hear is, "It falls out when we scissor." If the end intended for the wearer is straight and smooth, your muscles will naturally push it out during thrusting. You need a toy with a bulbous head or a slight curve that hooks behind the pelvic bone to stay secure.
Product Spotlight: Why We Recommend The Lesley
After testing various shapes and heavy, clunky models, we found that the Lesley: Triple-Motor Detachable Double Dildo for Lesbian Couples addresses the specific pain points of weight and retention better than competitors.
Here is how the features translate to actual bedroom benefits:
| Feature | The Real-World Benefit |
|---|---|
| Triple-Motor Design | Simulates the G-spot for the receiver while providing constant clitoral vibration for the wearer. No one is left out. |
| Detachable 2-in-1 | You aren't stuck with a giant couple's toy. You can detach the vibrator for solo play or travel, making it a better value investment. |
| Ergonomic U-Shape | Specifically engineered to stay inside during scissoring or grinding without requiring a strap-on harness. |
| Medical-Grade Silicone | Velvety soft, warms to body temperature quickly, and is 100% safe for sensitive skin. |
How to Use a Double Dildo: Positions & Techniques
Owning the toy is step one. knowing how to maneuver it without things getting clumsy is step two. Using a double dick dildo requires communication and specific positioning to ensure the toy stays secure and hits the right angles. Because the Lesley: Triple-Motor Detachable Double Dildo for Lesbian Couples is flexible, it works exceptionally well with these four positions.
1. The Scissor Lock (Face-to-Face)
This is the "classic" lesbian sex position, but it is often tricky with a strapless toy. Here is the best way to execute it:
- Setup: Both partners lie on their sides facing each other. The wearing partner inserts the shorter or bulbous end first.
- The Lock: Intertwine your legs. One partner’s top leg should go over the other’s hip. This "locks" your pelvises together, creating pressure that helps keep the toy in place.
- Motion: Instead of thrusting in and out (which causes slippage), focus on a grinding, circular motion. The friction against the clitoris, combined with the internal fullness, creates intense stimulation.
2. The Lazy Spoon (Face-to-Back)
If you want deep penetration and intimacy without the athletic workout, this is your go-to.
- Setup: The receiving partner lies on their side, back facing the wearing partner (spooning).
- Entry: The wearing partner spoons from behind, inserting the toy. Because you are aligned front-to-back, the toy naturally stays seated deeper.
- Benefit: This position allows the wearing partner to reach around and stimulate the receiver's clitoris or breasts manually while the toy handles the internal work. It is perfect for long, slow sessions.
3. The Rider (Top and Bottom)
This position offers the most control and depth but requires some stability.
- Setup: The wearing partner lies on their back. The receiving partner straddles them on top.
- The Action: The partner on top controls the depth and speed. Gravity works in your favor here, helping to keep the toy seated in the bottom partner.
- Pro Tip: If the wearer feels the toy slipping, they can use their hands to hold the base of the dildo against their body while the top partner grinds against it. This creates a stable base for hard riding.
4. The T-Bone
This is perpendicular positioning, where one partner lies on their back and the other lies on their side at a 90-degree angle.
- Why it works: It changes the angle of penetration to hit the G-spot differently. It also allows for immense clitoral friction for the partner on top (the cross of the T).
- Technique: The partner on their back wears the toy. The top partner slides down onto it sideways. This creates a very tight seal and intense friction on the bridge of the dildo.
Critical Safety & Hygiene Guide
We cannot stress this enough: how you care for your double dildo determines how long it lasts and how safe your body remains. Because you are dealing with double penetration and fluid exchange, hygiene is paramount.
The Science of Lubrication
You must use the correct lube. Since the Lesley and most high-quality double dildos are made of silicone, you must use water-based lubricant.
Why? It comes down to chemistry. Silicone oil (the main ingredient in silicone lube) shares similar chemical properties with the silicone in your toy. If you use them together, the lube will actually begin to dissolve the surface of the toy, creating a gummy texture and microscopic pits where bacteria breed. Always check the bottle. If the first ingredient is "Dimethicone" or "Cyclopentasiloxane," put it back. Stick to water-based formulas containing water, glycerin (or paraben-free alternatives), and cellulose.
Cleaning Routine: The 3-Step Process
Do not just wipe it down with a tissue. Understanding how to correctly clean and store your sex toys is vital for long-term use. Follow this routine after every single use:
- Immediate Rinse: Before the fluids dry, rinse the toy under warm water to remove surface residue.
- Soap Scrub: Use a mild, unfragranced anti-bacterial soap. Fragranced soaps can disrupt vaginal pH balance, leading to yeast infections. Lather the toy for at least 20 seconds, paying attention to the ridges and the motor charging port (ensure the port is sealed or waterproof before submerging).
- The Boil (Optional but Recommended): For medical-grade silicone toys without non-removable motors, you can boil them for 3-5 minutes to sterilize. However, since the Lesley has internal motors, do NOT boil it directly. Instead, use a specialized sex toy cleaner spray that kills 99.9% of bacteria, or wipe it down with a 10% bleach solution followed by a thorough water rinse.
- Drying: Pat dry with a lint-free towel. Do not leave it on a fuzzy bath mat where it can pick up lint and dust. Store it in a breathable pouch (like the one Bombex provides) or a clean pillowcase. Never store silicone toys touching other silicone toys, as they can fuse together over time.
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ)
Can I use a double dick dildo if I am playing solo?
Generally, standard one-piece double dildos are difficult to use solo because the second head gets in the way. However, this is exactly why we recommend the Lesley Double Dildo. It features a detachable design, meaning you can separate the vibrating bullet or shaft from the main U-shape. This effectively gives you two toys in one: a couple’s toy for partner play and a vibrator for solo sessions.
Does using a double dildo hurt?
It should not hurt, but it does require preparation. Because two people are being penetrated, angles are critical. If you rush, friction can cause discomfort. We recommend starting with plenty of foreplay and applying a generous amount of water-based lubricant to both ends of the toy and both partners. Start with a position like "The Spoon" where movement is slow and controlled before moving to more vigorous positions.
How do I keep the strapless dildo from falling out?
This is the most common challenge. First, ensure the "wearer" is using the end with the larger bulb or curve, as this helps hook behind the pelvic bone. Second, utilize your pelvic floor muscles (Kegels) to grip the toy. Third, choose positions where legs are intertwined (like scissoring) or where gravity assists (like the Rider position), which naturally keeps the toy compressed between bodies.
Is it safe to share the toy between partners?
Yes, provided you practice proper hygiene. By knowing how to use sex toys safely and responsibly, you can avoid passing on sexually transmitted infections. If you are fluid-bonded with your partner (tested and monogamous), standard cleaning with soap and water is sufficient. If you are not fluid-bonded, or if you want extra protection, you can use condoms on both ends of the dildo. Just ensure the condoms are compatible with the lubricant you are using (latex condoms work with water-based lube).
How loud are the motors on the Lesley double dildo?
The Lesley is designed to be discreet. While it packs a punch with its triple motors, the noise level is generally low (under 50dB), similar to a quiet hum. This makes it suitable for roommates or living situations where you need to keep volume down, provided you aren't on the highest setting against a hard surface.
Final Thoughts
Upgrading your bedroom life with a double dick dildo is about connection. It bridges the gap between partners, allowing you to feel physically joined in a way few other toys can achieve. But the experience is only as good as the tool you use.
Don't settle for cheap, rigid plastic that slips out and kills the mood. Invest in ergonomics and safety. For its medical-grade silicone, triple-motor versatility, and smart detachable design, the Lesley: Triple-Motor Detachable Double Dildo for Lesbian Couples remains our top recommendation for couples looking to deepen their intimacy.
