Let’s be real for a second. Finding a 2 way strap on (often called a double dildo) that actually stays in place during sex is one of the biggest frustrations for lesbian couples. We have tested plenty of "ergonomic" toys that promise the world but end up slipping out the moment things get moving. It’s a mood killer.
If you are looking for closeness, simultaneous stimulation, and a toy that feels like a natural extension of your body, you are in the right place. We are going to break down exactly how to choose the right system, safe positions to try, and why the Lesley: Triple-Motor Detachable Double Dildo for Lesbian Couples is our top recommendation for stability and pleasure.
Quick Summary: The "TL;DR"
What is a 2 way strap on? It is a dual-ended sex toy designed for two partners to use simultaneously—usually vaginally—creating a "connected" sexual experience without a harness.
Top Pick: The BOMBEX Lesley.
Why? Unlike rigid standard models, the Lesley features a flexible U-shape design that hugs the wearer's pubic bone for hands-free stability. It’s also triple-motored and detachable, solving the two biggest complaints: "it slips out" and "it's boring for the wearer."
What is a 2 Way Strap On?
A 2 way strap on is a double-ended phallic toy designed to be inserted into two people at once. While the name implies a "strap," many modern versions are actually strapless, relying on ergonomic design and muscle control (Kegels) to stay in place.
Traditional strap-ons focus heavily on the receiver's pleasure. A 2 way system changes that dynamic completely. It prioritizes mutual pleasure, allowing the wearer to feel internal stimulation and clitoral friction while penetrating their partner. It creates a level of intimacy and face-to-face connection that is hard to replicate with other toys.
Buying Criteria: How to Choose a Toy That Fits
Before you click "add to cart," you need to know what separates a medical-grade device from a cheap novelty item. Here is what we look for:
1. Material Safety
This is non-negotiable. You need 100% medical-grade silicone. The vagina is a mucous membrane that absorbs chemicals easily. Cheaper materials like jelly, PVC, or TPR are porous, meaning they trap bacteria that you literally cannot wash out—a hygiene risk highlighted by Planned Parenthood’s guide on keeping sex toys clean. Silicone is non-porous, boilable, and body-safe.
2. The Shape (The "Stay-Put" Factor)
If the toy is a straight line, it will fall out. Period. For a strapless experience, look for a U-shape or C-shape design. The wearer's end needs a bulbous tip or a specific curve that hooks behind the pubic bone. This internal anchor is what allows you to go hands-free.
3. Motor Functionality
Many double dildos are dead silicone—no vibration. While the filling sensation is nice, many women need clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm. A system with integrated motors ensures that the internal fullness is paired with the external buzz required for the "Big O."
Product Spotlight: Why We Recommend The Lesley
We chose the Lesley: Triple-Motor Detachable Double Dildo for Lesbian Couples because it addresses the mechanical failures of older toys. It’s not just a double dildo; it’s a modular system.
Here is a breakdown of how it compares to a standard generic strapless toy:
| Feature | Generic Strapless Toy | BOMBEX Lesley |
|---|---|---|
| Stability | Often slips out; requires hand support. | Ergonomic U-Shape anchors behind the pubic bone. |
| Versatility | One solid piece; couples play only. | Detachable 2-in-1: Use together or split for solo play. |
| Stimulation | Usually non-vibrating. | Triple Motors: Stimulation for wearer and receiver simultaneously. |
| Material | Often PVC or TPE (smells like chemical rubber). | Premium Body-Safe Silicone. |
The standout feature here is the detachability. Sometimes you want the connection of a 2 way strap on, but other times you might just want to use the wearable vibe solo, or use the insertable end as a hand-held toy on your partner. The Lesley gives you three toys for the price of one.
4 Best Positions for 2 Way Strap On Play
Mastering a strapless double dildo takes a little practice. Because you don't have a harness strapping it to your waist, you need to rely on body positioning and mechanics to keep the connection secure. Here are four positions that work best with the Lesley’s ergonomic design.
1. The Lotus (Face-to-Face Wrapping)
This is the "gold standard" for 2 way strap on intimacy. It allows for deep kissing, eye contact, and maximum stability.
- How to do it: The wearing partner sits cross-legged (or with legs slightly open) on the bed. They insert the shorter/bulbous end of the Lesley. The receiving partner straddles the wearer’s lap, wrapping their legs around the wearer's waist.
- Why it works: Gravity is your friend here. The receiving partner’s weight presses down onto the toy, helping to keep it anchored in the wearer. The close body contact stimulates the clitoris of both partners against the vibrating center of the toy.
- Pro Tip: Hold each other’s hips to control the depth and rhythm. Small, grinding movements work better than thrusting.
2. The Lazy Spoon (Side-Lying)
If you want a marathon session without getting tired, the Spoon is your best bet. It’s incredibly romantic and allows for easy access to manual stimulation.
- How to do it: Both partners lie on their sides, facing the same direction (spooning). The wearer (big spoon) inserts their end, and slides up behind the receiver (little spoon). The receiver may need to lift their top leg slightly to allow entry.
- Why it works: This position is very tight, which helps the toy stay in place. The Lesley’s U-shape fits naturally between the bodies. The wearer can easily reach around to fondle the receiver’s breasts or clitoris while the toy vibrates internally.
3. The Modified Missionary
Traditional missionary can be tricky with a strapless toy because the "thrusting" motion can dislodge it. However, with a slight modification, it’s intense.
- How to do it: The receiving partner lies on their back with pillows under their hips to tilt the pelvis up. The wearing partner climbs on top. Instead of pulling all the way out and thrusting back in, focus on the "grind."
- Why it works: By keeping the bodies pressed together and using a grinding or rocking motion, the toy stays secure. The vibrating motor in the Lesley will rest directly against the wearer’s clitoris, and the pressure from the receiver’s pubic bone will amplify the sensation.
4. The Reverse Rider (Cowgirl Variation)
This offers a great view and gives the receiver total control over depth.
- How to do it: The wearing partner lies on their back. The receiving partner straddles them, facing away from the wearer (looking at the wearer's feet).
- Why it works: The angle of entry in reverse cowgirl often aligns better with the natural curve of many double dildos. The receiver controls the pace, squatting up and down. The wearer can relax and enjoy the internal fullness and vibration without having to do the "heavy lifting" of pelvic thrusting.
Critical Safety & Hygiene Guide
We cannot stress this enough: hygiene is the difference between a great night and a doctor's appointment. Here is how to keep your playtime safe.
The Science of Silicone and Bacteria
As mentioned earlier, you must use 100% medical-grade silicone. High-quality silicone is non-porous. This means that on a microscopic level, the surface is smooth and sealed. Bacteria, yeast, and viruses cannot burrow into the material. According to Healthline’s experts on sex toy hygiene, porous materials (often found in cheap "jelly" toys) can harbor microscopic pathogens even after washing, which increases the risk of Bacterial Vaginosis (BV) or yeast infections.
Lube: Water vs. Silicone
Rule #1 of toy ownership: Never use silicone lubricant with silicone toys.
It sounds counterintuitive, but here is the chemistry: Silicone lube and silicone toys are made of the same base materials. If you use them together, the lube will actually begin to dissolve the surface of your toy, creating a gummy, pitted texture. These pits become breeding grounds for bacteria.
The Solution: Always use a high-quality water-based lubricant with your Lesley Double Dildo. Water-based lubes are safe for the toy, safe for condoms, and easy to wash off. Look for brands that are glycerin-free and paraben-free if you are sensitive.
Cleaning Routine
Because the Lesley has motors, you cannot boil it (electronics and boiling water don't mix). Follow this routine:
- Immediate Rinse: Right after use, rinse the toy with warm water to remove fluids.
- Soap Up: Use a mild, fragrance-free anti-bacterial soap or a dedicated sex toy cleaner. Lather it up for at least 20 seconds.
- Detailed Scrub: Pay attention to any ridges or crevices where the detachable mechanism connects.
- Dry Thoroughly: Pat dry with a clean, lint-free towel or let it air dry completely before storing.
- Storage: Store your silicone toys in a cloth bag or a separate drawer compartment, away from other toys (especially those made of different materials) to prevent chemical reactions.
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ)
How do I keep a strapless strap on from falling out?
This is the most common question! First, ensure you have a toy with an ergonomic bulb or U-shape, like the Lesley. Second, Kegel muscles play a huge role. The wearer uses their pelvic floor muscles to "grip" the internal end of the toy. Finally, choose positions that keep your bodies pressed close together (like scissoring or grinding) rather than positions involving long, deep thrusts.
Can I use the Lesley double dildo for solo play?
Yes! That is the beauty of the detachable design. You can separate the vibrating wearable end to use as a solo vibrator or insertable plug. You can also use the longer end as a hand-held dildo. It is much more versatile than a solid-piece molded toy.
Is a 2 way strap on painful for the wearer?
It shouldn't be. However, because the wearer's end is usually shorter and bulbous to help retention, it can feel "full." Use plenty of water-based lubricant on both ends. If you are new to this, start slow. The wearer determines the pace. If it hurts, stop, apply more lube, and try a different angle.
Do I need to wear a harness with the Lesley?
No, the Lesley is designed to be strapless. However, if you plan on very vigorous activity and are worried about slippage, you can wear a tight pair of panties or a harness with an O-ring over it for extra security, though it is not strictly necessary for the design to work.
Does the vibration work on both ends?
Yes. The Lesley features a triple-motor design. This ensures that the vibrations travel through the silicone to stimulate the wearer internally and the receiver internally, as well as providing clitoral stimulation where the bodies meet.
Final Thoughts
Exploring 2 way play can be one of the most connecting experiences for a couple. It bridges the gap between "giving" and "receiving," allowing you both to be immersed in the sensation at the same time.
The key is patience, plenty of lube, and the right gear. By choosing a versatile, body-safe system like the Lesley: Triple-Motor Detachable Double Dildo for Lesbian Couples, you eliminate the annoyance of slipping toys and focus entirely on each other.
Ready to upgrade your intimacy? Check out the Lesley Double Dildo here and experience the difference superior design makes.
